My ex and I went to mass together only a few times, but it always felt like I was dragging her there. Not so with my wife. She's enthusiastically learning and likes to go.

It's a kid friendly church as well and it was nice to see I don't have the only restless 6 year olds there.

I've never been one to really take to being bashed over the head with faith or religion. I generally find that a turn off. Things are different now since I'm guided by feeling and thirst for that feeling of God back in my life. I understand the story of the prodigal son now more than ever.

Help,

It is hard to believe it has been so long ago that you came here? I do recall posting to you in those days. My how things have changed and in such a good way.

What I think people should not lose sight of in your post is that alot of the outcome in your life is due to your efforts and struggles to regain your children in your life.

You should be very proud of yourself.

God Bless,

JL

Super long story short:

Prepping daughter for First Communion. Ex and her boyfriend tell kids that they don't believe in God. Much arguing ensues between them and myself over the issue. They claim that they support the kids beliefs, but will tell them their own. They don't see how this could be confusing for the kids, but that's another issue.

Then, I see my DD's enthusiasm for her preparation and how she is really believing, despite the contradictions. Same with my boys, who are starting to participate (still young and find church to be torture).

I completely understand the idea of how the little children shall lead them. Teaching your own kids these things helps revive dormant faith. It's been a wonderful re-discovery and I can see for myself that my influence on them is not to be underestimated.

To the BS's out there. Keep the faith. The truth eventually reveals itself. Set the example. Be the example. Live the example.

The children will notice.

They could always ask your XW: " Mommy, if god doesnt exist then how did daddy end up with so many blessings like a house, a job, a court ruling and a faithful wife?"

Eh. Doesn't matter to me. I have confidence that my influence in this regard is stronger than hers. Don't get me wrong, I fully expect them to rebel when they get older and question everything. I expect this. But establishing the foundation is important to me and I hope they return to that foundation when they're older.

Life goes on and things are good right now. I just hope they stay that way.

They are still wayward so there is nothing else you would expect. After your Ex breaks the news that there is no God to yoru DD just tell her that she needs to pray for them because they have lost their way. If this believe in God then she will have to be accountable.

You are the light and beacon for your children to follow. Blessings.

The above indicates someone who is as wise as a serpent. But having your kids around will help make you love God like children do -- obedient, humble, reverent, innocent. Your children will likely pick up on this and after their rebellion, your love for God and His creation will shine through for them. While I don't want to be presumptuous about your or anyone's faith life, I like your approach to God and Man.


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Me: BH, 40 (and jobless again)
Her: WW, 33
Never lived together
Married 6 years; together 10 years
2 young kids (DD3.8 and DD2.2)
Her EA: Fall '08
She moves out of our home: 10/16/09
Informally separated
D-day: 01/22/10
D-day #2: 06/28/10
Exposed to 12 of my WW's and the OM's friends and family members plus all of my immediate family members and some extended family
In Plan B since 11/15/10; dark Plan B since 03/22/11
OM stopped working with her 08/10
Wife asks lawyer for legal separation 12/10
Wife files for D: 02/10/11
Still hopeful and confident

b/u