Are you certain NC is still in place? This sounds like there may have just been contact.

Remember ~ APs bring out the worst in the F/WS so when they become unusually p*ssy, it's often because of C.

My H never had the typical withdrawal so I'm no expert on withdrawal but I WOULD be extra careful about NC being broken.

Do/did they work together?

WHERE AND HOW did he see the posow on fridays? I'd also question if there has been a breach of NC
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He would take her out to dinner, to "their" place

Edit: No, they don't work together.

I'm positive NC is still in place. DS worked with WH all Friday and after work, we stayed home and ordered in take out and watched movies.

Today, I had lunch with a friend but one of my supporters spent the time I was away with WH fixing my car. The rest of the day, we were together.

I checked all my sources and not a peep from OW or an attempt at contact from WH.

He's calmed down now, but it's seriously like he's bipolar. One minute raging about something he thought he heard, to clinging to me on the couch telling me he loves me.

Ugh... was going so good.

Last week WH had a panic attack which resulted in minor heart attack. Spent 4 days in the hospital drugged up to keep him calm. Doctors (hospital and his private) put him back on blood pressure meds, xanax and seroquel.

The night he got out of the hospital he contacted OW. Told he he had dreams of them together, that it was meant to be, and now he's finally seen the light and they belong together. Went on all weekend, friends talked to him and told him to to basically sh*it or get off the pot, stop his crap. He told *them* that he's been incredibly stupid and has no intention of leaving me, he loves me and only me.

Yesterday, I contacted her again, told her to back off, did she really want to teach her daughter that it's OK to break up marriages. She told me that she has no intention of doing that and doesn't ever want to see him again.

So, since last night and all day today, I get to see him acting like a sniveling fool begging her to take him back, that they're soulmates, he hasn't ever loved me, blah blah. I'm so nauseated I feel like throwing up.

Kick him out and plan B or live through the sniveling bullsh*t? She's since blocked him so she won't be replying anymore.

I would go to Plan B. This waffling is bullcr*p.

Since he can't make the decision, you make it for him. He needs to know he's not the only one who can call the shots in YOUR marriage.

Be strong and stand up for yourself. Go to a pitch dark Plan B and show him what life is like without in the picture at all.

Do you feel better when he's not around?

It sounds like you're getting to that place where you won't be married at all costs.

If he's moping around in front of you like someone ran over his dog then I'd write up a Plan B letter, get your ducks in a row and tell him to leave. You shouldn't have his indecisiveness paraded in front of you on a daily basis.

He needs to put his big boy britches on.

TT, my FWH OW actually looked me straight in the eye and said the exact same thing. I was a fool to believe her. Don't be so sure of the blocking thing either.

I'm sorry this is happening to you.

Is OW married?

I think NC was broken long before the hospital situation.

You can get into Plan B within 48 hours IF you work very hard.

Don't cut any corners though. Better to make it 72 or even 96 hours ~ or longer ~ if you don't have all your ducks in a row.

How to Plan B

Also, how did you find this out and does he know that you know?

NC was definitely in place until last Friday. This I'm 100% positive about. His relapse was due to the health issues, incidently, his affair started after his last mild heart attack. Almost exactly 2 yrs.

On one hand, I want to plan B.

On the other hand, I don't think there's enough love left in me to accept him back if I plan B. I think B will lead to D. I'm so digusted right now, I don't even want to touch him or him to touch me.

Texts back and forth, they get uploaded to a place I can read them.

He doesn't know I know exactly what the texts say, just that I "know" he's contacting her and I told him that I contacted her.

Oh, gag. TickyTock, only you can decide how much of this abuse you are willing to take. Me? I would pack of a nice bag of clothes and his toiletries, set them back the door and then tell him to get the hell out.

Don't trust the OW.

Yes, actually I do feel better when he's not around. That should answer my questions, eh?

No, she's not married. Divorced.

Well, it's food for thought.

Do your two oldest kids know about this mess? Sorry if this was answered in your previous thread, I didn't see it.

All 3 kids know, all 3 kids hate her, her kids hate WH (according to what I've heard).

It will be a LOVELY step situation, because I think I'm almost positive if I go to B, it will be straight to D.

You are kind of on an anger high right now, which is certainly understandable.

Why don't you get into a dark Plan B and THEN decide if you want to go straight to D? This might help you not make any rash decisions.

I am angry... irate... pick one. I hate him right now.

Is there a good link for what plan B actually is with IM instructions? I want to forward to a friend so she can read about it before I ask her to be the go between for me and the sniveling fool.

Intermediary Training School

Also read the link I posted earlier on How to Plan B.