You might have a chance to blow up this affair this week. Does the OW have a facebook page? And would your mother or mother in law personally call the OW and/or her parents?

Facebook was the "tool" is used to get rid of the "Tool"

OB, what I did was sent a message to everybody in his family exposing the fact he was having an affair with my wife. It was a simple letter, and there are examples here for you to use.

To find the people to target, open OW's FB page (from your husbands account if at all possible) and click on her name. Once you see her page, click on the number that shows how many friends she has. It will bring up all of her friends. Also look at the list of her family members (at the bottom of the list of friends on her home page). Right click the name and open in a new window. Then highlight the address in the address bar and right click it. Then open Word document and paste the address into Word. This is how I compiled a list of Facebook friends and family of the OM.

Once you have it all saved in Word, it's yours and nobody can stop you.

Copy and paste each family member into the browser address bar, and you will be taken to that person's FB page. Click on "send message" and away you go!

The Facebook exposure was the single most effective tool I used. It completely eliminated him. He was dis-owned by several of his family members and his ex-wife said she was going to reopen their child custody case because of this. Ouch!

That's the effects of a good exposure! Like a nuclear bomb went off, and you don't feel a thing!

Just be careful in your wording. Do not threaten anything. Only state the facts as you know them. Offer proof to anyone who would like proof.

Kill the affair. NOW.

OH MY, be still my heart!! HarleyDuck, is that you?? That was an awesome post! How far you have come!

ok, back to the thread. ob, please follow HarleyDuck's advice to the letter! And before you do, make sure your facebook picture is one of you and your husband and your children. A nice, big happy family!

When you send out the messages, space them out 1 minute apart so you are not shut down for flooding.

Here is a sample letter:

Dear friend of Skankyhola,

It is with great regret that I send this letter but I believe all of her friends should be aware that Skanky is having an affair with my husband, Joe. We have been married for 5 years and have 3 heartbroken children. They have been having this affair since October according to the evidence.

I would be happy to provide the evidence to anyone who asks.

I would ask that you use your influence with Skanky to persuade her to leave my husband alone. You should also watch your own husbands around her because she is no friend to marriage.

I would appreciate it if someone would notify her parents and ask them to call me at xxx-www-xxxx.

Thank you, BW

Yep, it's me!

I have come far... and hopefully WW has too.

If you can check in on my thread, I'd appreciate your feedback...( I had it truncated to avoid being found)

(Sorry for the hijack!)

Thanks for the advice all. I will not even respond to that email. I am keeping all of his emails in a folder so I don't keep seeing them. It has gone in there too so am not tempted.

I have lost a lot of weight over the past few weeks. I wasn't fat before but had an extra 15lbs of baby weight that clung on. My old "skinny" jeans from pre babies are now a bit big on me. I am making sure when I see him that I am dressed nicely.

The home is what you'd expect with the 3 kids. I used to have a basket in the living room with toys & books in it, have now put that upstairs. I painted the kitchen, it looks fantastic. H commented on it when he came here to get the kids last, said he thought it was too dark a color but it looked good.
He said it used to bother him when he came in as we have a small house so there was never anywhere to go to relax away from the kids/noise.

Yes she has a FB page, have already copied her entire friends list. My MIL is talking about going over to the office & talking to OW. Have a new found love for my MIL LOL

It'll take more than just "talking" to the OW.

It'll take NO CONTACT.

Not sure if you think you can work around this little detail, but you can't. Period.

I hope you can find the courage to do whatever you HAVE to do to get her out of the picture for good!

You may not be the type to be mean to people, but in this case, you have to go deep and if necessary, dirty to root her out of your marriage. She is the pest and you are the exterminator.

Use every means legally available to you to accomplish this goal. No p*ssyfooting around OB - get your MoJo flowing and have at her!

You won't get anywhere until this step is completed.

How do I do no contact when we have 3 children though?

I am not a mean person, until you cross me. Then watch the F out!

I believe Harley was referring to the fact that your WH can have No Contact with OW.

Yes, I meant NO CONTACT between your husband and the Skank.

You have a hurdle with them working together and that's a huge challenge. But not impossible to achieve.

The weapons I would use if I were you is a personal visit to the workplace, and hand deliver the letters to the appropriate personnel, telling them who you are and who your husband and the skank are. Telling them briefly what's in the letter will have a huge impact. It's OK to cry when you are doing this, that'll be a natural reaction.

The Facebook weapon is a nuclear bomb, trust me! I can attest to the power of messaging on Facebook to as many family members of HERS as you can. Take a look at her wall and see who posts the most on there as they are likely her closest friends.

Don't worry about the impact all this will have at home. Your husband will be furious and that's GOOD! He needs a huge wake-up call and you have the weapons to deliver it.

Stand Strong honey! We're here for you!

The people I need to get the letters to do not work on site. OW & my husband are the managers there. The company is based about 2 hours away, so sometimes the big bosses are about.

Perfect!! If I were you MIL, I would be doing the same thing. Bravo for her!! She is standing up for her son.

And we will help you do Plan B, when the time comes. Most people who go into Plan B do have children and it can be done.

Hopefully you sent your letters to the big bosses at HQ?

Yep sent them this morning so lets wait & see.

HOW did you send them?

The best way would have been certified, return receipt requested. Costs about $5, but you'll know that it got there.

You can still re-send another copy with this classification.

Certified with the return receipt. Also asked OWs H to spilt cost of PI with me. Why should we both shell out for it?

Was getting FB letters ready to go. Discovered a friend of mine is friends with a friend of hers. So got in touch with my friend & told her the whole story. So she is now spreading this around the OWs home town. I told her to make sure she tells them all that there is a little boy in this house who needs open heart surgery soon. That woman is going to be dirt when I am thru with her.

Way to go ob! The more you go nuclear, the better the results and the better you will feel!

Be careful when messaging the people on FB - go slowly like in batches of 3 or 4 in succession. Then wait ten minutes and send 3 or 4 more.

If you go too fast facebook will think you are spamming. It happened to me, so I slowed it way down. I was still able to fire off about 25 messages. Very effective!

Grrr MIL had a go at me when I mentioned talking to a friend of mine about it. I think its because she is quite embarrassed about her sons behavior. I got the whole "you need to keep this in the family circle" speech. I told her that I need support from my friends to get thru this, what am I supposed to do, sit home & cry & only talk to 1 or 2 people??

She should be embarrassed. Her son is making a mockery of marriage!

Don't worry about what other people think. Stick to your plan!

If the MIL wants to keep it under wraps, then she's not the helpful person you thought she was...

The last thing you want to do is "keep this in the family"! You want full-blown, embarrassing exposure!

Remember you are the victim here. Your husband is the wayward.... And you are the last hope for your marriage!

Come here any time and VENT! I do that here all the time! Since you don't want to do that at home... Keep smiling! But carry a big stick!