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Three of us, I would say the BH 2010-2011 is larger than that!
Andy, Stretch, SMM, Lost, Rey, North, TD, and on and on!
We need our own board!  I feel so left out! J/K. My thread is in the recovery board. I did my adultery slaying quite a while before I showed up...
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"Smart people believe weird things because they are skilled at defending beliefs they arrived at for non-smart reasons." - Michael Shermer
"Fair speech may hide a foul heart." - Samwise Gamgee LOTR
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This morning wife said she wanted to look at getting a different wedding ring, asked if I was ok with that. She said she wanted a new start with it, and also wanted to show me that she was committed and not messing around with this. A good sign, I believe. Stretch is JEALOUS. Of course that is a good sign! Take it slow and easy. Don't rush. This does sound like a fast rebound from a recovery that felt completely shattered a couple weekends ago NW. A new ring is a fantastic committment! Way to go.  Keep on working. Your foundation for this M is very fragile.
Me: 43
ExWW: 44
Married 16yrs. 4 children
EA (ExWW): May-Nov 2009 + Aug-Dec 2010
D-DAY JAN 30, 2011
Exposure: FEB 7, 2011
Contact Again: Apr 25, 2011
Divorce Final Sept 2012
"I want to be married and stay married. Now I uunderstand the kind of marriage I want and we all deserve. But I also know it takes two to want to Build that Marriage."
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thats great about the ring. from a girl its a good sign. my WH is just wearing the new one we got in the mail (we saw it in st thomas) 2 days after the floor fell out for me, he wont take it off. kinda ironic, but nice. are girls allowed to be honorary members of ur club? Yes. Please stop by anytime!
Me: 43
ExWW: 44
Married 16yrs. 4 children
EA (ExWW): May-Nov 2009 + Aug-Dec 2010
D-DAY JAN 30, 2011
Exposure: FEB 7, 2011
Contact Again: Apr 25, 2011
Divorce Final Sept 2012
"I want to be married and stay married. Now I uunderstand the kind of marriage I want and we all deserve. But I also know it takes two to want to Build that Marriage."
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Yes. Please stop by anytime! Hey, wait a minute! A few weeks ago you guys were conspiring to keep ME out! What gives!? I think Reynolds had something to do with it... 
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What the firetruck?
How did Bliss get in here?
Who was supposed to be watching the door?
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Take it slow and easy. Don't rush. This does sound like a fast rebound from a recovery that felt completely shattered a couple weekends ago NW. Don't know if you want any FWW input here, NW, but I second this observation by stretch. Your W may mean well, but I don't know if her intentions are pure yet - KWIM? They can't be, really, since she has so recently been in contact. It will still take a long time for the fog to clear entirely. I would caution that she needs that time to truly realize the magnitude of her actions, to try and actually grasp what all has happened and how this has forever changed you, her, and the marriage. JMHO.
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What the firetruck?
How did Bliss get in here?
Who was supposed to be watching the door? Hey, you guys, I think your sign fell down. Whew! This place is a MESS! Where's the broom? Where's the furniture polish?? Geez, what a frat house!! Is that green stuff in the oven a whole pizza? ![[Linked Image from he-manwomanhatersclub.net]](http://www.he-manwomanhatersclub.net/images/277_he_mans_wowan_haters_club.JPG)
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Marital would I do that? Thanks for lookin in on SMM.
If you're not around I would have no one to remind me to pick up my socks, and then all the AHs would come flooding back into my marriage..
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What the firetruck?
How did Bliss get in here?
Who was supposed to be watching the door? Beats me, I thought Reynolds had that covered. Figures.
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Don't know if you want any FWW input here, NW, but I second this observation by stretch.
Your W may mean well, but I don't know if her intentions are pure yet - KWIM? They can't be, really, since she has so recently been in contact. It will still take a long time for the fog to clear entirely.
I would caution that she needs that time to truly realize the magnitude of her actions, to try and actually grasp what all has happened and how this has forever changed you, her, and the marriage.
JMHO. Hey, by all means toss in your input, the more the merrier! This is what is in the back of my mind, that it seems too fast. Re: your last sentence, she has talked about that and I have no doubt that she recognizes the impact of what happened. So I'm still watching (in case y'all were worried that I wasn't) but guess I either have to go for it or file for divorce. No real middle ground there, you know? So far, so good. It just seems "different" this time around, but I've read enough threads to know that things can change pretty quickly if you're not on top of your game. We talked the other day about how we've got to maintain this thing of ours this time around, no complacency. Thanks, all, for piping in. Your comments are always appreciated, even if you're a "gurl" 
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Well then, by all means, carry on w/ the thread fun! (Though may I reserve the right to be the thread downer as needed?  )
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Though may I reserve the right to be the thread downer as needed? You sure can, any time! Seriously, though, feel free to chime in if something doesn't look right. Ok? I know enough to know that I don't know squat sometimes
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Waaa, why are my posts suddenly doubling up?????
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Well then, by all means, carry on w/ the thread fun! (Though may I reserve the right to be the thread downer as needed? ) Aw, Mrs. V - you could never be a downer!
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Aw, maritalbliss, you done doubled the warm fuzzies! 
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LMAO...Yes, it was Reynolds turn to watch the door for 'gurls'...we'll have to be more careful next time. All kidding aside, I really appreciate the female perspective in all of this. They have an advantage over us males - we're soooooo easy to figure out. Women, on the other hand, are a mystery that takes a lifetime to unravel.
BS(me)- 45
WW - 41
D-day 1 - (PA) 01/2011
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LMAO...Yes, it was Reynolds turn to watch the door for 'gurls'...we'll have to be more careful next time. All kidding aside, I really appreciate the female perspective in all of this. They have an advantage over us males - we're soooooo easy to figure out. Women, on the other hand, are a mystery that takes a lifetime to unravel. Hugs, Andy! Still following your thread...
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LMAO...Yes, it was Reynolds turn to watch the door for 'gurls'...we'll have to be more careful next time. All kidding aside, I really appreciate the female perspective in all of this. They have an advantage over us males - we're soooooo easy to figure out. Women, on the other hand, are a mystery that takes a lifetime to unravel. As things progress, Andy, there are specific, wonderful, women here who have a voice that is going to be invaluable to your personal recovery.
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MB and HHH - thanks. Sophmoric humor aside, I know you're right. I will need a woman's perspective more than most. I'm too logical most of the time and not very emotional. I think my WW is very surprised at how passionate I get during our MC sessions.
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Guys, as regards the "Y-Chromosone Only" club you're discussing, all I can suggest is: ![[Linked Image from powip.com]](http://powip.com/wp-content/uploads/2010/08/elmer-fudd-shhhh.jpg) "Be vewy, vewy quiet!"
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