Hello. I have a question regarding the modding out of non-MB books or websites. I�d like to know under what conditions we can post another resource and under what we can�t. When I first got here many posters recommended books and websites, in addition to the ones by the Harleys, that really helped me. I would point you to examples, but all of my initial posts were lost when the server crashed back in 2009. I�d like to offer those same resources (a few of which I still use) but don�t want to be edited for violating TOS.

The TOS says not to post anything false, abusive, harassing, right-violating, copyrighted, spam� but it doesn�t say no referring people to outside resources.

Just want to understand, thanks

Thanks,
DTC

Thanks for your question, Daisy. After much discussion with Dr. Harley about this issue, we published this policy in the Announcements Section last year.

Marriage Builders Policy on other Marriage Books and Programs

This announcement is to clarify our policy about the discussion of other marriage books and programs on our forum. Such discussion is acceptable, except on the threads of those seeking help for their marriages. Offering alternative methods to those in need promises to confuse and discourage them, often leading to unnecessary debates. Posters attempting to help should not be put in the position of having to debate basic principles. That is not helpful to anyone, most especially the poster in need.

This is a large board and not every single post is read by the moderating volunteers. If the moderators are not alerted to a specific post mentioning non-mb material it could likely remain. This is not an indication that other times the same material won't be edited nor is it any indication that some posters can say certain things and others can't. Further, sometimes non-MB material and/or links MAY remain on the boards because the specific moderator(s) that read it didn't feel it was a distraction, or they may have even felt it was relevant and helpful. This is within Moderator discretion. Again, MB is about saving and restoring love in as many marriages as possible utilizing the MB principles and processes.

If you want to have such discussions, please feel free to start up a thread in the Other Topics forum. We ask that you do not post links out of respect for our forum host.

Any questions, please feel free to email me.

Thank you,

JustUss

Hope the emphasis here clarifies for you, Daisy.

Unless my comprehension has failed me, you could mention those resources in your own thread, but you cannot share them in the threads of other, newer posters, as they are here to learn Marriage Builders.

A person like yourself who has spent some time here and has learned the concepts and how to live them may find ways to adapt other information into this lifestyle change, but to suggest outside sources to newer posters is to invite disaster.

Thank you, JustUss, for the expanation. Would it be possible to add this verbiage to the TOS linked in my original post? Or consolodate all such announcements to one TOS post?

Daisy,

You're welcome.

All these "rules and procedures" are posted threads in the Announcement Forum

If you haven't ever checked out this forum, please do so. It may answer many questions.

If you still have questions or concerns, PLEASE feel free to email me.

Thank you. I'm feeling quite sheepish, as that's the forum I went to trying to find the TOS. My eyes somehow glazed over the post entitled "MB Policy on Other Marriage Books & Programs," which answers my questions, and went straight to the one with "TOS" in the title. Sorry about that.

If I have any further questions, I will certianly email you.