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Man, Chick. Your posts are almost impossible to comprehend. Sorry girl...has to be said. If you're tapping at an iphone or something, maybe change devices. I thought you lost those nails???
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i did but this new laptop sucks also it a new hp laptop and it one key off, with the mouse pad that kills me! i agree! i cannot type normally but this sucks. maybe the old pc would do me better
this forum should also incude spell check. going to get the wireless keyboard tomorrow, you will see the improvement i promise
Me 44- yes ugggh WH 47 together 26 years M 19 serial cheater big time DD1 2.24.11 NC letter sent 3/7/11 NC letter to OW2 april final truths 5/8-- all of them poly confirmed 5/18 working the plan
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just one question really needed for the poly since you've thought you had it all...
"Does Chick know everything there is to know about your cheating now?"
Or however you word that question. Cause that's really what you want to know at this point.
Cafe Plan B link http://forum.marriagebuilders.com/ubbt/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2182650&page=1 The ? that made recovery possible: "Which lovebuster do I do the most that hurts the worst"? The statement that signaled my personal recovery and the turning point in our marriage recovery: "I don't need to be married that badly!" If you're interested in saving your relationship, you'll work on it when it's convenient. If you're committed, you'll accept no excuses.
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thats basically what the poly guy came up with or something like are you deliberately with holding info..... they reword it in three ways. we have a meeting scheduled before, just me.
"The statement that signaled my personal recovery and the turning point in our marriage recovery: "I don't need to be married that badly!"- which one of you said that?
I have a call for the radio show all set and hope to get more clarity.
Me 44- yes ugggh WH 47 together 26 years M 19 serial cheater big time DD1 2.24.11 NC letter sent 3/7/11 NC letter to OW2 april final truths 5/8-- all of them poly confirmed 5/18 working the plan
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When are you going to be on the radio show? You may want to jot some notes down of what you want to say/ask if you think you may get nervous. Just in case
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today... yes i am nervous, i have been on the raido before but this is different. i think i am going to throw up.
Me 44- yes ugggh WH 47 together 26 years M 19 serial cheater big time DD1 2.24.11 NC letter sent 3/7/11 NC letter to OW2 april final truths 5/8-- all of them poly confirmed 5/18 working the plan
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chicka, gosh, I have complete stage fright and I was so nervous too ~ they made it so easy for me! They are so friendly and they will guide you right along. Hang in there!!
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did you hear? let me know your thoughts. WH is emailing to see if he can get on the show, should be interesting.
i am just unsure that he will be able to maintain a new life like this given his past.. big concern for me.
more discussions on how he has see the light, he didnt know it could be so good, as it was while we were doing the program. but is that just another addiction per se?
Me 44- yes ugggh WH 47 together 26 years M 19 serial cheater big time DD1 2.24.11 NC letter sent 3/7/11 NC letter to OW2 april final truths 5/8-- all of them poly confirmed 5/18 working the plan
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Yes, they said they have a lot of hope for your situation!
Also as for your H emailing, that's a great idea. I really wanted for Dr Harley to talk to my H and it ended up working out great.
You could email them and let them know who your H is (that's what I did) and that he has emailed them so they will probably be sure to get him on soon.
Has your H come back home yet?
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he slept home last night.. we were up late talking. guess what he did it!! he is on today, i am gonna trow up again.
Me 44- yes ugggh WH 47 together 26 years M 19 serial cheater big time DD1 2.24.11 NC letter sent 3/7/11 NC letter to OW2 april final truths 5/8-- all of them poly confirmed 5/18 working the plan
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I just got finished listening, for some reason my computer will not let me listen to them untill they are in archives. I'm looking forward to hearing what they say to your WH.
Ive been following your post from the beginning and really rooting for you.
Me -BS 40 Him - FWH 34 (dtl) 3 D-Days from 12/25/10 to 01/06/11 NC - 01/09/11 02/20/12 done beating my head on that wall.
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You said that yesterday, chicka, but you sounded cool as a cucumber Anyway, that's awesome! I will time my drive out to Trader Joe's so that I can listen...lol
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thank jlamp- did you find out any info yet? give an update on you post been looking for you.
I am almost to nervous to listen, like the next bus is gonna hit me or something.
he is very nervous
Me 44- yes ugggh WH 47 together 26 years M 19 serial cheater big time DD1 2.24.11 NC letter sent 3/7/11 NC letter to OW2 april final truths 5/8-- all of them poly confirmed 5/18 working the plan
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"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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I have nothing but enormous respect for your husband, chickadee. It took alot of balls for him to confess all that he did. That is really amazing coming from someone who has been lying for so long. He jumped off the cliff. Too bad every serial cheater WS doesn't do that!!
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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Same here, I was impressed, chicka. The stuff Dr Harley said about seeing his taker was involved, etc, just wow. Would have never thought of that but it makes so much sense!
How are you feeling?
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Dr Harley has a good crap detector too and even he said he believed MrChickadee..
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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What do you think of asking him to post here?
It may help to not lose any momentum once the dust sort of settles.
Me (BH) FWW Married 2000, DS 8, DD 6, DD 2
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i was going to thow up the whole time. little embarrassed i guess he was too. he said he felt bad interrupting.
i just dead tired, and allergies have finally got me too.
dr. harley said he was good at detecting, that was part of the reason that pushed me to ask, he wouldnt have done it but i asked.
i dont want to listen, ughh.
the taker stuff was good, he had emailed me that he may talk to him about that if he agreed. I wish he had longer... they had me on for a long time i thought it was a 5min thing.
i printed a post that began with the words "Typical Virginia winter� gray/brown, damp, too warm to snow, but too cold to leave your coat unbuttoned. It was a Wednesday." he liked it. baby steps on getting him on here. i think y'all may kill him at first, but that is his problem.
i have been keeping gloveoils tag on my counter, and i gave it to him to read, he just got it.
When you walk to the edge of all the light you have and take that first step into the darkness of the unknown, you must believe that one of two things will happen: There will be something solid for you to stand upon, or, you will be taught how to fly.
he is becoming curious about you all, maybe i will bring it up....
thank you all!!!!!
Me 44- yes ugggh WH 47 together 26 years M 19 serial cheater big time DD1 2.24.11 NC letter sent 3/7/11 NC letter to OW2 april final truths 5/8-- all of them poly confirmed 5/18 working the plan
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If you're worried about spellchecking, you can download the Firefox internet browser. It comes with spellcheck.
One year becomes two, two years becomes five, five becomes ten and before you know it, you've wasted your whole life on a problem you can't solve. That's one way to spend your life. -rwinger
I will not spend my life this way.
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