It has recently come to my attention that my mother has been engaged in pa/ea with a married co-worker. Now that things have ended (in part due to incessant prodding by my family to do so)she cannot decide whether or not to tell his wife what has been going on. I think that she should. If she does not, I want to. Being a BW myself, I feel that this woman has the right to know. Should I step in and tell her or wait for my mother to do it?

As an aside, this whole thing has been a big slap in the face to me since my mother began this affair shortly after I told her about my husband's affair. I'm so disgusted with people right now. . .anyway, enough of my rant. Thanks for any input.

I would save her the drama and call the omw myself. Then tell your mother.

i know im new here but here is my input if anyone thinkls im wrong correct me please.

i would tell OMW and H just as ML said i know there were some people that knew about my situation but noone stepped up and i do hold resentment for them for that some people may get mad at you for doing it but IMO that will pass quickly.

thats my 2 cents

thank you for your input. to tell her is my inclination as well. if my mom doesnt do it, i wont be able to live with myself if i do not.

If you have walked in our shoes, then you KNOW WHAT YOU MUST DO.

Please save the omw some pain and TELL HER. She does not have a say in her M right now, and like we were, she is DENIED THE TRUTH AND DENIED ANY DECISION MAKING in the M when the mm or mw has an affair.

It denies the bs a reality, say in their marriage, say in what they wish to do since their partner has chosen to be deceitful, and most of all..
A SAY IN KNOWING ABOUT THEIR STATUS OF HEALTH..if you're having an affair, you're sleeping with everybody else the skank or manho has or is sleeping with thus, putting your bs at RISK OF AN STD.

Some can kill you. Nice huh?

Please tell the omw. She deserved to know just as much as you or I did. Plus she can bust up the ema. Tell her about MB and maybe steer her to a book by Dr. Harley.

I'm sorry your mom did this. Fwiw, my mom we suspect, was involved in one too, with an old HS bf right before and right after my dad passed away. We do not accept this man btw, in our family and our mom is a perpetual wayward.