I need help. I recently found out that my husband is addicted to porn this has caused emotional damage and self esteem problems it also led us to misscarry a baby help me need to talk

i found out he was looking it up on our computer for years I'm not sure i can get over it please is there anyone out there that can help me?

please help i need someone to talk to

he told me he was sorry and he never meant to intentionally hurt me but it did hurt me and he knows this is the reason for the loss I can not seem to get over it. Sometimes I think I am and other days I am not like today I am thinking about calling it quits I know longer feel like I am his #1 priority and it makes me very sad

I'm sorry this happened Laura. However, you'll need to start your own thread. You are posting on my thread right now.

Name change?

Phew. Yes laura, start your own thread.

I'm sorry Laura, it sounds like you're really hurting right now. I hope you come back, you will find help here if you want it.

Honey I'm so sorry about the baby. However, the chances that you lost the baby because of emotional distress are virtually nil. If emotions caused miscarriages, there wouldn't be so many teenage moms running around.

You will probably never know what caused your miscarriage. The most common reason is that there was something very wrong with the baby and he/she could not have survived. There are a multitude of other things that can go wrong, too.

I have had two miscarriages. The first one was very early and the second was around 9 weeks. I was completely devastated. Looking back on it, I realize now that I should have gone to my doctor and asked for anti-depressants. Instead I cried. Buckets of tears. Barrels of tears. It was one of the saddest times of my life. I eventually joined a support group which really helped me get over it.

So, I'd strongly suggest that you ask your ob/gyn for anti-depressants and look for a support group.

Now, as to your marriage, here is an article about being married to someone with a porn problem.