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What if the OM answers the door? Should I confront and drop the bomb that my high maintenance WW (for him, it's within our means)will not be coming with any $$? Ask to speak to his wife. Have you exposed to the OM's parents yet?
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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Please take it from me...I learned the hard way, and I still didn't do it perfectly...expose to OMW / family.
In my case OM's mommy called me -- we spoke for @ 6 minutes -- and she was not happy and wanted NOTHING to do with my W...even asked if she was in counseling and accused her of "leading on" her son...OMs sisters and brother weren't too happy, either, I bet...
AND, as Mel reminded me, I think, at the very least this put the kabosh on W being 'welcomed' into OMs family -- in essence, the A is dead without 'support' for the relationship...(I think she joked about W not being invited to the family picnic).
Expose. It works.
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Why the hell would she stoop SO low? It's called affairing-down. All waywards do it. Stick around long enough and you will see it in every.single.affair. It is not uncommon. When they de-fog they are usually mortified at who they had an A with. My H is so embarrassed he has actually turned bright red when talking about this aspect.
Me,BW - 42; FWH-46 4 kids D-Day #s1 and 2~May 2006 D-Day #3~Feb.27, 2007 (we'd been in a FR) Plan B~ March 3 ~ April 6, 2007 In Recovery and things are improving every day. MB rocks. 
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