Hello ob! My name changed, but here I am checking in on you.

You keep saying "ex" are you saying you're divorced already? Or just separated?

I know the MB program fairly well, and you are certainly entitled to the feelings you have towards WH. But is that it? You are truly convinced it's over?

How about the living arrangements? Custody? Child support?

Can you bring us up to speed on your current situation?

Thanks and sorry to hear things haven't improved.

Not divorced yet, but it is in the works. So I guess he is my STBX.

The kids live with me, so I have physical custody but he has shared custody and has them every other weekend and any other times when the kids want to be with him.

I am 100% convinced it is over. I have to say it has not been a bad thing for me. It has made me do a lot of soul searching and looking at where I am going in life. I am happy, I have great friends, my children are happy, life is good for me.

I believe we have challenges and curveballs in life, its up to us what we make of them. The way I choose to go on my path is different to many of you. I know many of you think I should be willing to try to save my marriage. But you know what, I did try, I tried many times & it got thrown back in my face. And I followed the Do's and Don't List and I discovered I like myself. I deserve to be treated with respect, and I deserve far better.

Even Dr. Harley says in his book, His Needs, Her Needs that he cannot save every marriage.

I am happy for you, and wish the best for you in your new life.

One day your STBXH will look back on what he had, and live with the regret. For now he's still high on the affair... that will wear off, and he (or she) will realize it just wasn't meant to be. Then he'll be the one doing the soul searching.

Have a great holiday weekend coming up and keep your chin up. Your kids need you more now than ever!

Thank you! I hope you enjoy the holiday as well, I have a camping trip with the kids planned - should be a lot of fun. Toasted marshmallows!

I wish you the very best with everything too.

Don't forget the graham crackers and Hershey's chocolate so you can whip up s'mores!