As a BS I know first hand the affects of adultery. The most common phrase I hear from people is, "He cheated, dump his hinny and move on." As many of you BS's know it isn't quite that simple.

I spend a portion of my day dedicated to God, Prayer, Bible Reading, and devotion for my own personal recovery. It seems to be my only outlet to make sense of this entire ordeal. Clearly society isn't on my side, and it seems adultery has just about become a "Normal", i.e. "So your WH fell out of love with you, he cannot chose who he falls in love with!!" From the mouth of my wayward MIL.

I am perplexed by society today. When it comes to adultery Aren't all the commandments broken?

Why you may want to rethink you choice when it comes to adultery!!


1) You shall have no other Gods except me: Adultery gives us the God of Addiction. You are putting your addiction ahead of God.

2) You shall not make yourself and idol. Adultery is the entitlement that I am owed something not presently given to me by my spouse. I am above all and am entitled to feel instant gratification for my body.

3) Do Not take the Lord's Name in Vain: Adultery is the ability to justify that God brought this person into your life to be your "soulmate". God does not and will never accept his name being used to justify adultery!

4) Remember the Sabbath and keep it Holy: Anyone committing adultery cannot practice the Sabbath or keep it Holy when sin is present in their lives. It cannot be done - No Way! No How! You are not keeping anything about the sabbath holy if you are in an adulterous relationship. You must repent first.

5) Honor your mother and father: For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and they will become one flesh. You cannot honor your mother and father when you break your vow. This is the union of becoming one flesh. That one flesh produces offspring which are products of your father and mother. There is no honor when you go outside that flesh to another person.

6) Though shall not murder: When a man and woman take the covenant before God that they will marry until death, God does something amazing, he makes them one flesh. Adultery takes that one flesh and tears in into two flesh. Not only is the marriage murdered, but the one flesh has been murdered and both spouses are torn in half. God is the only one who can restore the flesh back to one and in the case of the BS God restores their flesh so they can marry another. If the WS desides to repent then his flesh will also be restored otherwise the WS dies a slow and painful death with half his flesh.

7) You shall not commit Adultery: Enough Said!!!!

8) You shall not steal: The OP is solely responsible for stealing the mate of another. You cannot bed a theif without a wrath of consequences to follow, because

9) You shall not bear false witness against your neighbor: Hey Wayward quit the lying, deceit, and betrayl. Adultery cannot survive unless you constantly break the 9th Commandment.

& Finally

10) You shall not covet anything that belongs to your neighbor: Lust of the flesh, Lust of the eyes, and Pride of life. Nothing good will ever come by breaking this commandment. Just don't do it!!

Wow - I can see why we have the 10 Commandments, and how breaking those commandments may not be a wise choice for the soul.

Adultery is truly 10 Commandment HE77, and that my friends it something I don't think I would be messin' with. That is just Bad, Bad, Very Bad Karma.

Tough~

Wow good post.

itstoughlove,

In my own personal recovery get much out of His Word.

Even though society seems to accept this it is sinful. That is why most of these waywards turn from God or become a version of "Christian Athesists". Act as if they are with God but are doubleminded.

Not only for the waywards but the OP or adulteress there is only one path for them also without remorse and redemption.

Proverbs 5:3-6

For the lips of the adulterous woman drip honey,
and her speech is smoother than oil;
but in the end she is bitter as gall,
sharp as a double-edged sword.
Her feet go down to death;
her steps lead straight to the grave.
She gives no thought to the way of life;
her paths wander aimlessly, but she does not know it.

Well look at our government today and the W.H. and no wonder why we have those who just discount the damage affairs do to marriages, families, and children. Lives are forever changed.

You wrote a very informative and personally insightful post. The truth in it needs to ring from sea to shining sea!

I think the worst thing to happen to families was the creation of the "no fault" divorce.

In a group of several hundred divorcees in my large area at a divorce recovery seminar, almost 99% of those there, were in the midst of their divorces BECAUSE OF ADULTERY. Not $, not lack of love, not really anything else.

Only the truth can set us free.

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Tough, may I add in on some of these?

1) You shall have no other Gods except me: Adultery gives us the God of Addiction. You are putting your addiction ahead of God. John Calvin said that "man's hearts are idol factories". It is our inclination to set up anything in place of God. I see adultery as the ultimate self idolization. It is totally me centered. Anthropocentric to its core. It sets the Wayward up as their own God

2) You shall not make yourself and idol. Adultery is the entitlement that I am owed something not presently given to me by my spouse. I am above all and am entitled to feel instant gratification for my body. LOL... I think I blew this one with the previous note! But I agree. It takes something good (a gift from God like relationships, twists and perverts them) I would maintain that Idolatry and lust are connected... An overblown desire (connected to coveting actually).

3) Do Not take the Lord's Name in Vain: Adultery is the ability to justify that God brought this person into your life to be your "soulmate". God does not and will never accept his name being used to justify adultery! Particularly for professing Christians who take the name of the Lord as their own. It blasphemes the name of Christ and brings dishonor to his name. No wonder the world says Christians are no different from them, they just use different lingo

4) Remember the Sabbath and keep it Holy: Anyone committing adultery cannot practice the Sabbath or keep it Holy when sin is present in their lives. It cannot be done - No Way! No How! You are not keeping anything about the sabbath holy if you are in an adulterous relationship. You must repent first. How true this is! It is a sin of commission and not of omission.

5) Honor your mother and father: For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and they will become one flesh. You cannot honor your mother and father when you break your vow. This is the union of becoming one flesh. That one flesh produces offspring which are products of your father and mother. There is no honor when you go outside that flesh to another person. Additionally, the commandment speaks broadly to the relationship between superiors and inferiors, persons of equal status in all walks of life. How does a WW honor the husband she vowed to submit to? How does a WH honor his wife whom he promised to love. Not to mention dishonoring their own titles as father or mother when engaged in an affair.

6) Though shall not murder: When a man and woman take the covenant before God that they will marry until death, God does something amazing, he makes them one flesh. Adultery takes that one flesh and tears in into two flesh. Not only is the marriage murdered, but the one flesh has been murdered and both spouses are torn in half. God is the only one who can restore the flesh back to one and in the case of the BS God restores their flesh so they can marry another. If the WS desides to repent then his flesh will also be restored otherwise the WS dies a slow and painful death with half his flesh. Sins of this gravity, while forgivable bring death not only to the relationship between the spouses, but spiritual death as well. The picture in the OT of physical death for the adulterer is mirrored in the NT in spiritual death (excommunication for the unrepentant spouse in an affair)

7) You shall not commit Adultery: Enough Said!!!!

8) You shall not steal: The OP is solely responsible for stealing the mate of another. You cannot bed a theif without a wrath of consequences to follow, The WW or WH steals time, affection, finances, themselves when they give to the OP. The OP steals those things that dont belong to them as well. Wish I could remember where that proverb is "drink from your own well" Because of the one flesh union, your body is not yours to give it is your husband's

9) You shall not bear false witness against your neighbor: Hey Wayward quit the lying, deceit, and betrayl. Adultery cannot survive unless you constantly break the 9th Commandment. #9 also carries the obligation to preserve the truth as well and to protect others good names. think of the implications of that!

& Finally

10) You shall not covet anything that belongs to your neighbor: Lust of the flesh, Lust of the eyes, and Pride of life. Nothing good will ever come by breaking this commandment. Just don't do it!! Coveting is a type of idolatry. It is saying it is more important to me than anything else.

Well done tough! Thanks for letting me hijack and add to what you wrote.

CV

Great Add-On CV -- It never dawned on me that Adultery is the breaking of all of God's Commandments. That is a pretty hefty price for something that usually lasts less than 2 years.

The saddest reality is both adulterer's are really only used and abused by each other. There is nothing real to that relationship. In the end it was worth nothing!!!

I agree Peach - we have tough penalties in place for murder, stealing, yet nothing for adultery. When I counseled with Steve, he discussed how they are trying to work with legislatures on the "No Fault". No one wants to hear about it. They just want to sweep it all under the rug.

Another thought - if most divorces are caused by adultery, and divorce can be linked and highly correlated with many of societies costs, problems, and issues, then you would think fixing the problem first would be a no brainer. I cannot imagine how much tax payer money is wasted on the consequences of divorced families all which started because of adultery!!

Tough~