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How are you this afternoon?
Did you get that restraining order? It's a good idea if you SAVE ALL of those threatening texts.
One year becomes two, two years becomes five, five becomes ten and before you know it, you've wasted your whole life on a problem you can't solve. That's one way to spend your life. -rwinger
I will not spend my life this way.
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How are you this afternoon?
Did you get that restraining order? I've been wondering the same thing. I hope you are okay.
Me: BS 51
Himself: WH 53, EA/PA w/ RunnerSlut his "running buddy."
Buncha' kids. The two youngest are still minors.
Separated: 08/13/09 after 25 years of marriage
Plan D: Filed 11/13/09 Final 3/30/11
MC told me that he probably has a personality disorder
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I am in a bad place right now. I cant even think or write. I have changed locks a while ago, and alarm code. I went this morning and got a temp order of protection... I love you all for your words, but tommorrow i will post...I am safe
Together 10 years, Married 8
6 kids his 2 mine2 ours2
Me BW
Him WH
Renewed vows 10/10/10
Affair exposed 10/28/10
Affair began 05/10
In recovery 11/1-2/17/11
BS left state to mil 2/17/11
I filed divorce 3/3/11
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I am so sorry to see your updates!! I hope you start to feel better soon...
Married 1/2000.
D-Day 3/7/11. WH moved in with OW and they married in 2013.
Single mom of 4.
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I am in a bad place right now. I cant even think or write. I have changed locks a while ago, and alarm code. I went this morning and got a temp order of protection... I love you all for your words, but tommorrow i will post...I am safe FYI Years ago an MB poster, Cherished, was day 12 post surgery when her WH exploded with anger because she (Cherished) had threatened to confront the OW. Yes. While Cherished was recovering from surgery, her WH got so angry that he broke her arm! Yes, you read this right. Cherished "forgave" him. They remained married. She remained under his thumb. There was nothing at all MB-ish about their marriage. Her name, Cherished, had nothing to do with her marriage, but her faith. Her story is useful as a cautionary tale. Please, do not become another "Cherished cautionary tale" of the MB forums. He met her in June, 1999 and had lunches with her once or twice a month until May of last year when she propositioned him. He kept seeing her and telling me that he needed to help her to see that they jeopardized both marriages. I was upset. He last contacted her the day before Thanksgiving. It sounds not so bad except that I started calling her and needed surgery in early December and was five days in the hospital and then twelve days after the surgery we got in a fight when I threatened to call her. I don't want to say exactly what happened except that I have needed two surgeries since that fight. He is going to anger management classes now, we called together and told her that she had to be out of our marriage, and now my husband is trying to get past this mess and I am stuck, stuck, stuck. I arranged to have lunch with him today and don't know that I even want to see him. I have read the information on recovery and am not sure that it works well if neither is very committed. In fact, I think my husband is the more committed of the two of us. He broke her arm, that's what happened.
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Torn your first marriage was abusive was it not? I hope you can get out of this pattern. Can I just say on behalf of husbands everwhere who would never lay a hand on a woman in anger - this guy makes me sick.
FBH,Dad
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Glad to hear you're ok, Torn.
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FBH,Dad
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Me-49, WH-51
Married 02/1983 yrs, Sons - 27, 26, 20
1st PA - 1985, 1st known EA - 1992/1993
2nd PA - 06/02 to 11/04
1st D-day - 09/03, D-day 2 - 10/04 D-day 3 05/08
NC e-mail - 11/04- it wasn't real
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Yes, we're all getting very worried about you... 
One year becomes two, two years becomes five, five becomes ten and before you know it, you've wasted your whole life on a problem you can't solve. That's one way to spend your life. -rwinger
I will not spend my life this way.
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Well, just a bump to see if Torn is still out there.
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I am in a bad place right now. I cant even think or write. I have changed locks a while ago, and alarm code. I went this morning and got a temp order of protection... I love you all for your words, but tommorrow i will post...I am safe This was your last post and, on the chance that you still get notices of replies here and see this, I hope things turned out good for you. Update if you get a chance.
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