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http://www.slate.com/id/2296426/

pretty good article, something we all knew.
Still can't believe this is still a debate.....


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Absolutely! He used a telephoto lens!

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Is this a trick question?


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The article starts out by analyzing what the wayward said, as if that's an indicator of anything. We already know what the wayward said was different a couple of weeks ago, so we have no reason to trust anything he is saying now.

For all the people that politicians pay to tell them what to say and how to talk to the public, I still can't believe stories like this.


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Kudos to the author of the article for bringing it to a good conclusion:

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You can call these adventures whatever you want to. But we all know what they are. They're relationships.


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Just ask his betrayed wife. She knows that answer.


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Originally Posted by NeverGuessed
Absolutely! He used a telephoto lens!


rotflmao ......................... doh2

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Yes, I believe he was. It seemed as if an addiction too for him, and seriously, if he went THAT far texting and sexting, then he probably met up w/at least one woman sometime.

I personally believe he's gone further than that. Just my gleaning from the "weinger gate" saga though.



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IMO; yes.

If he "wasn't," he was dang sure trying to. IMO trying = cheating.


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I know a wiener man,
He owns a wiener stand.
He sells most everything,
From hot dog buns on down.
We'll live the wiener life,
I'll be his wiener wife.
Hot dog! I love that wiener man.


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Cheater - check.

Liar - check.

Career ruined - check.

And I'll bet it's the "career ruined" that concerns him the most ... not his betrayed bride, not the fact that he's a liar or a cheat but that he won't get to be Mayor of NYC. He won't get to move up in politics. He'll probably have to fade into a well-hidden job. Yuck.


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I for one, am glad that this type of issue is making headlines.

How many times do new people deny the very existence of EA's?

Most articles I read have a "oh, come on, now...please!" tone for his excuses and reasonings.

His poor wife and future child.


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Gotta love my WW too. We just happened to start talking about Weiner. I used the word EA and of course she rolled her eyes. I actually had to control my urge to cackle. Par for the course baby. Did I expect anything else?

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I read in other places that he only has a degree in political science, and no other really relevant job experience that could help him get something comparable to what he is making now outside of this job he has now.

It's speculated that that's the reason he hasn't resigned--he has nowhere else to go.


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The only idiot who seems to be supporting him is Charlie Rangel. Uuugh.

anyhow, even if his messaging the 17 year old turns out to be benign, WHO WOULD ALLOW their CHILD to be messaged to from a 46 year old man?

I think it's time to seize his computer and go thru the hard drives. Weiner needs jail time now. I think it goes further than him being a wayward. I think he has crossed into potentially criminal territory now. Scary, scary man who has those out of control needs for admiration/hero worship.

This is the kind of recipe for making the "super-cheater". Power, a sudden new authority, and access to hundreds of people he thinks "adore" him or hang on his every words. After all, several of the women were messaged because they commented on his you-tube videos where he went on political rants.

Imho, when you take a somebody (his former girlfriend said this) who had self-doubt or issues with self confidence, give them sudden power and influence, it is a recipe for disaster many times. This is what happened to my xwh. In high school he was a little guy, nobody thought much of him at all. He wasn't popular. He wasn't cool. Then he gew up, grew taller, got attractive (although Weiner isn't), and walked into this dream job position things changed. Unfortunately I was the wife when this all happened.

Suddenly the power and influence is intoxicating. It's literally their drug. And if women suddenly now talk to him, or think he's cool or give him attention, it fuels that more.

I feel bad for his wife and unborn child. Although I do believe however, with this guy, according to an article where another x spoke out, that this has been going on for a while.

But if there are teens he's been corresponding to, women young enough to be his daughter, then he needs to go...and then further go to jail.


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Peachy .... go read the last few posts on my "Ooops" thread, in "Other Topics".
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Here's another thing about Weiner that I wish more of the news outlets would address:

Even if you care nothing about the damage done to his family - we care, but not everyone does - it's obvious that this man was absolutely desperate to keep his dirty little secret. As a member of the U.S. Congress, that leaves him wide open to blackmail from everything from outright terrorists to garden-variety crooks who want to buy his vote.

And if that wasn't enough - his WIFE, who is now PREGNANT, works directly and closely with the U.S. Secretary of State! Depending on how much this (now pregnant) woman wanted to keep her marriage together, she would have been a prime target for blackmail as well.

If nothing else, leaving himself wide open to the blackmail factor should be enough for this clown to lose his job.


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I suspect he has sociopathic tendencies too. Go and see the tmz new pics. Uugh. He took half nekkid pics of himself in the HOUSE gym. Yep. On company time. OUR jobs pay HIS salary.



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Ask his wife, I bet she thinks so!

If his wife was doing the same thing, he'd consider HER a cheater!


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