Challicew, how are you snooping, exactly?

Have you told OWH?

ChalliceW, has a No contact letter been written by WH, okay'd by you, and sent to OW?

And the last contact was just over 2 weeks ago, don't try to make it sound better by saying it will be 3 weeks on the 18th. It might not, he may contact her before that. Don't give him credit for the work he hasn't done yet.

IS there a chance you could get him to a polygraph? What about a VAR? Does he have GPS on his phone? There have actually been WH's who have been found to have a LD A and a local one, at the same time.

A NO contact letter has not been written by WH.
Not trying to make it sound better...just a fact.
What is VAR? Yes he does have GPS on phone. What is a LD A and a local one? Sorry for the ignorance

I'm chacking e mails via internet, checking his cell phone account via internet. Checking his cell phone constantly.
No...have not told OWH - don't know how to get hold of him. Only have the OW cell number from WH itemised cell phone billing

Challicew,

Ask your husband to write a no contact letter. It should be hand-written by him, approved by you and mailed by you. His reacton to this request will be very informative to you.

A VAR is a voice activated recorder. There is information about them on the "operation investigation" portion of the forum. It would be good for you to take a look at that entire forum.

LD A is a long distance affair. Didn't your H and OW meet at her father's house when she came into town? Have you exposed to the OW's father? He should know what sleazy behavior his daughter was doing at his house. Ick.

Have you even tried to find out who OWH is? I lived more than 600 miles away from OWH and it took me less than 2 hours to find him on the internet, call him and expose the affair to him. He was not surprised. His wife had had previous affairs and he had been ignoring her behavior. The physical portion of the A came to a screeching halt that day. It still took my H three months to actually write a no contact letter and that was only after I called him as gaslighting POS (a phrase I have never used to any human being before).


Also exppose the affair to his men's church group. Ask for their support. If there is someone suitable at H's work, ask for a male accountability partner who can make sure that your H does not disappear to meet OW someplace in your city.

Be proactive here. Don't neglect steps one and two for recovery.

AM

He has finally agreed to write a no contact letter with me which will be e mailed to OW.
Affair has been exposed to our church as well.