Did his dad know of the affair?

No his dad didn't know until he was told about it. He said he did suspect something might have been going on with them.

One thing I would like to add is it seems like he is playing games with my head. One day he wants to do everything and make it work the next day he tells me he needs time to think. He says he wants to make sure he won't have another affair because he loves us and doesn't want to hurt us again in the future. Is this just an excuse because he wants to be with her? I'm worried if I go to plan B I will lose him to her. I feel like I haven't met his emotional needs in the past that he won't want to come back.

Currently I am trying to meet his emotional needs as much as I can, but then I let my emotions get to me and we have a big fight and I feel like that makes us take 10 steps back and I have to try to build it up again. What would be the best way to deal with this so I don't push him away for good?

He says he wants to make sure he won't have another affair because he loves us and doesn't want to hurt us again in the future.

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I don't know, to me that says yes, I want to keep you strung along, but I want her too.

He's a waffling wayward right now and is in full contact with the ow, that is why you're getting this crazy fog babble!

They are all over the place, waywards. Change their minds faster than a 15 year old in 9th grade. Geez. Do I like Nancy today or is it Missy? Same teenage type selfish thinking and flippant ideas flooding their brains courtesy of the crazy chemicals in the brain that flood the brain in midst of affairs. That serotonin and dopamine stuff.

Pretend he's Otis from Andy Griffith show.

Just imagine him saying these things to you while clinging to a bottle slurring his words wearing that hat and slouchy tie and suit that Otis would wear b/c he's like an addict or alcoholic. Rambling and doing stupid stuff and saying stupid stuff.

When he is ready to end the affair, he will BE CLEAR in his thoughts and in deed. He's waffling and cake eating girl.

Time to really expose more and push this guy off that darn fence!

Imagine this: Your wh dressed up like this guy and talking like Otis!

We should have a "wayward sobriety test"

google her county and "tax records" most counties in the country are online now. If you know the address, you can get the name the property tax is under. I would bet that is a husband or family member of husand.

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I know this is extremely hard for you to persue.
You are getting great advice.

I am sorry you are here.
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