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#2520781 06/17/11 01:07 PM
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The following is copied from the BBC news website BBC News UK:

Plumber Ian Puddick has been cleared of internet harassment after tweeting and blogging details of his wife's affair.

Mr Puddick, 41, hailed it "a victory for free speech and the small man", following the verdict at City of Westminster Magistrates' Court.

He had tweeted, blogged and posted videos online after being enraged by his wife's 10-year relationship with company director Timothy Haynes.

Lawyers think the case may help define the limits of free expression online.

There were cheers from the public gallery and Mr Puddick shook his fist and smiled as District Judge Elizabeth Roscoe delivered not-guilty verdicts on two harassment charges at the end of a three-day trial.

Accompanied by his wife Leena, he said: "For the last 12 months this has taken over my life. Purely and simply there has been an abuse of power. If this can happen to me it can happen to anyone.

"It is absolutely a victory for free speech and the small man. I'm a plumber and drive around in a Transit."

Mr Haynes, from Billingshurst, West Sussex, had a 10-year affair with Leena Puddick, which was exposed after her husband read a text message on her mobile phone in 2009.

'Little nuisance'
The court heard details of e-mails and text messages that Mr Haynes had sent her over the course of their affair.

Mrs Puddick told the court she and Mr Haynes first had sex after a Christmas party in 2002 after initially meeting when she had joined reinsurance firm Guy Carpenter in 1997. Mr Haynes was a company director.

He would often send her 30 to 40 text messages a day, she told the court, and would doctor expenses to pay for their wining and dining.

Mr Haynes lost his job as a director at re-insurance firm, Guy Carpenter, as a result of the affair.

He admitted he had been "deceitful" but said Mr Puddick should have taken up his anger with him alone rather than launching a "campaign of harassment against him".

But on Friday, defence lawyer Michael Wolkind QC, representing Mr Puddick, said: "All Ian Puddick tried was to be a little nuisance. The little nuisance value of the little man."

Mr Haynes said both he and his wife needed counselling after the "embarrassment and shame" of neighbours and colleagues receiving texts and phone calls.

BBC legal affairs correspondent Clive Coleman said the case "points up the issue of whether someone freely expressing themselves widely online can be guilty of harassment".

He added: "As with jurors using Facebook, and people tweeting details of privacy injunctions, the law and the internet are working out their growing and not especially comfortable relationship."


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The "not guilty" verdict was delivered just a few hours ago.

The salient points I note from this, for those who worry about defamation or harassment after being advised to expose the affair via the internet:

It is not harassment to tell the truth via the internet.

Emails and text messages WILL be read out in court.

Some firms will sack people as the result of actions they undertook during their affair - such as doctoring expenses.

Waywards will claim that their deceit is not as bad as the BS's exposure.

Waywards will claim that they need counselling after people lean of their shameful behaviour.

Waywards are snivelling cowards.

The BS should always expose the affair and not be intimidated by threats of legal action.


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Did I read correctly that she was involved in the A prior to her marriage? Good for the BH!! Great exposure campaign. BRAVO!


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I hope Leena now knows that she is married to a REAL MAN!















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"Your actions are so loud that I can't hear a word you're saying!"

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Here's a video report on this case:

http://www.5min.com/Video/Sex-Texts-Exposed-Wifes-Affair-517099018

(Is it just me, or does the acceptance by lovely Leena of hubby's kiss-on-the-cheek look strained?)

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Score one for the good guys! I hope this case sets a precedent for these types of cases. We (as in the collective MB) have said for years that the truth is a defense to any possible "alleged" claim against a BS who exposes even in the face of a WS who threatens that public exposure is actionable. It's great that we now have a case of record to point newly betrayed spouses to that fear exposure. Woo-hoo!

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Originally Posted by NeverGuessed
Here's a video report on this case:

http://www.5min.com/Video/Sex-Texts-Exposed-Wifes-Affair-517099018

(Is it just me, or does the acceptance by lovely Leena of hubby's kiss-on-the-cheek look strained?)

Yeah, it does. She's probably embarrassed that her adultery has now been exposed globally.


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hurrayI'll bet we see a lot more of these cases being ruled in favor of the betrayed spouse.

The internet and electronic communication has made it easier for waywards to be in contact with each other - and to get busted.

Poor little waywards. cool


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Originally Posted by princessmeggy
She's probably embarrassed that her adultery has now been exposed globally.

And, I suspect, she might also be amazed that the entire world knows how hard her BH fought for her. Her BH has such value for his wife, he went to war.
Very sexy, that.


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