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So I've noticed a few other sober folks here, mainly through AA, and I'm feeling awfully blessed right now. Let's talk about the intersection of MB and 12 Steps.

I came to MB (and lurked for a long time) after nearly drinking a couple of years ago because I just couldn't "get it together" enough to look at some serious character defects that were hurting me and my marriage. It's as if they had gotten all gussied up for the prom and completely disguised themselves to look like anything but freakin' defects. And there I sat, playing the blame game, not understanding why I kept getting told to re-read pp60-63 of the BB. I postponed being here because those dang defects didn't hurt me enough. (Seventh step anyone? lol)

I totally get it now. My selfishness and pride aren't just my Taker (and Giver, when my motives are jacked up), but are also my quick tongue, rolling eyeballs and more. I'm (laugh here) completely astonished to find that, at more than 12 years sober, I'm as defect-laden as ever. The MB program is opening my eyes to how I played a very long game of duck-and-dodge with the AA program, even while I worked those steps.

I'm surprised I'm still married sometimes. My husband's a pretty tolerant fella.

What's your story on how the two programs travel the same path in your lives?