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In the beginning, when I found out about the A, I was torn completely apart. Each day I had to struggle to get up, to go through the motions. I felt like my life was destroyed. And it was. But each day I put a building brick up as I slowly rebuild my life. Today I saw an article that reminded me acutely of the period. The period where we are broken, lying on the floor. The moment we realize all those dreams of the future have been changed forever. For those who are in that moment, or those who remember that moment all to well, I am going to share that article. Maybe you will find some hope or peace with it. http://www.elephantjournal.com/2011...m-floor-is-a-good-idea--julie-jc-peters/
Me - BS Him - WS Discovery 3/26/10 NC letter mailed 5/27/10 NC letter recieved 5/29/10 My Thread Recovery may not be an option. Seriously looking a plan B/D
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![[Linked Image from images.elephantjournal.com]](http://images.elephantjournal.com/wp-content/uploads/2011/06/akhilanda.jpg) Ok, ENC, I can rejoice in your epiphany about assembling a new "whole" out of the broken shards of the old one, but I have a bit of trouble with the idea that every smashed vase (using a more familiar image than "Never-Not-Broken" dashing along on her crocodile) can ALWAYS be transformed into a new piece of surpassing value (if not iconic "beauty"). Sometimes shards just stay shards. But......I very much enjoyed the mental exercise your post provided. Thank you for offering it.
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I did not say it was perfect, just that it may offer hope to some.
I do not know if it would have helped me on D-day, though to be honest I was more furious on D-day than broken. Broken came later as the reality began to hit me with full force.
But to me the important point from that article was that we choose whether to remain broken. We choose and that is where our strength is, in choice.
Most of us ended up here without having a choice, ie our spouse chose to have an A without our knowledge or consent. But we choose whether to remain broken after we discover their actions. That choice is ours, whether we stay or leave.
Me - BS Him - WS Discovery 3/26/10 NC letter mailed 5/27/10 NC letter recieved 5/29/10 My Thread Recovery may not be an option. Seriously looking a plan B/D
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