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Dr. Harley states on his website in a couple of places that:
"As it turns out, most affairs end within six months of their seeing the light of day (being revealed to their family and friends)"
For all the betrayed spouses here, did you find that to be true? Did your spouses'affair end around the six month mark (after exposure)?
Last edited by Silverbutterfly; 06/29/11 11:02 PM.
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Dr. Harley states on his website in a couple of places that:
"As it turns out, most affairs end within six months of their seeing the light of day (being revealed to their family and friends)"
For all the betrayed spouses here, did you find that to be true? Did your spouses'affair end around the six month mark (after exposure)? Well, my A ended almost 6 months to the day after it began.
Me: BS/FWW: 48
BS/WH: 50
DS: 30, 27, 25
DD: 28
OC: 10
BH and I are raising my OC together.
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My FWW's EA ended the same night I discovered it.
But could I ask if you're indirectly "chewing the bone" that you had hold of in your other post?
You were (are?) fairly certain that NC had held between WH and AP. Are you then still pursuing the "He's still thinking about her fondly," angle?
He is going to warmly recall those "highlights" until you can provide him with his key ENs in ways and quantity that obliterate his memories of his time with OW. If he was honest in his completion of the ENQ (you DID complete those, right?), you'll have a map of his "hot buttons". Start pushing them.
Now, if he were here, I'd tell him his marriage-supporting job is to, whenever he thinks of OW, STOP! He should immediately work to change his thoughts to what you are doing to make him happy (aka: supply his ENs).
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For all the betrayed spouses here, did you find that to be true? Did your spouses'affair end around the six month mark (after exposure)? I found out on June 18th 2008, at around 6:00pm. It was done by 6:30. CV
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