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Folks, something came to light last night that has me deleting the info in this thread. Just in case kind of thing. I'll explain more, but it might be a while.

One heck of an interesting twist in this mess. Ugh.


Last edited by No_Stress_Zone; 07/13/11 10:00 PM.

I am 52, stbxh is 46
One child together 15 DD
2 (mine) from 1st marriage, 26 dd and 28 ds.
Married Dec 94
Separated Oct 09
Too many D-Days to list. (EA/Cyber affairs)
He filed no fault 3-2011 I countered with grounds.
Court date set for June 6, 2011 for Final Decree and was continued.
That ticked him off, he is now fighting for custody.
Lawyers are expensive, my daughter is worth every penny.
Even the ones I have to borrow.
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Last edited by No_Stress_Zone; 07/13/11 09:59 PM.

I am 52, stbxh is 46
One child together 15 DD
2 (mine) from 1st marriage, 26 dd and 28 ds.
Married Dec 94
Separated Oct 09
Too many D-Days to list. (EA/Cyber affairs)
He filed no fault 3-2011 I countered with grounds.
Court date set for June 6, 2011 for Final Decree and was continued.
That ticked him off, he is now fighting for custody.
Lawyers are expensive, my daughter is worth every penny.
Even the ones I have to borrow.
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NSZ, I'm sorry you are hurting about your daughter. Unfortunately, I don't have good news. Depending on what state you are in, your daughter may have a say in the matter. I know that in Texas a 12-year old can voice their opinion to the Judge in chambers and the Judge can give that opinion weight in his decision on where the child lives. Look up the laws in your state. If she makes the decision to live with her dad, you should at least get visitation rights.

However, if your WH is poisoning (alienating) her against you, the court will not look kindly on that. The problem is proving it without looking vindictive in court. The court frowns on mud-slinging without admissible proof. Presentation is important as well. I suggest that you document everything -- the good and the bad. Keep your documentation neutral, leaving out the emotion.

I'm so sorry for your pain, this is probably one of the hardest things for a mother to experience. I have a family member who experienced this and it was so hard to watch.


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Last edited by No_Stress_Zone; 07/13/11 09:58 PM.

I am 52, stbxh is 46
One child together 15 DD
2 (mine) from 1st marriage, 26 dd and 28 ds.
Married Dec 94
Separated Oct 09
Too many D-Days to list. (EA/Cyber affairs)
He filed no fault 3-2011 I countered with grounds.
Court date set for June 6, 2011 for Final Decree and was continued.
That ticked him off, he is now fighting for custody.
Lawyers are expensive, my daughter is worth every penny.
Even the ones I have to borrow.
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Posts: 233
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Originally Posted by princessmeggy
NSZ, I'm sorry you are hurting about your daughter. Unfortunately, I don't have good news. Depending on what state you are in, your daughter may have a say in the matter. I know that in Texas a 12-year old can voice their opinion to the Judge in chambers and the Judge can give that opinion weight in his decision on where the child lives. Look up the laws in your state. If she makes the decision to live with her dad, you should at least get visitation rights.

However, if your WH is poisoning (alienating) her against you, the court will not look kindly on that. The problem is proving it without looking vindictive in court. The court frowns on mud-slinging without admissible proof. Presentation is important as well. I suggest that you document everything -- the good and the bad. Keep your documentation neutral, leaving out the emotion.

I'm so sorry for your pain, this is probably one of the hardest things for a mother to experience. I have a family member who experienced this and it was so hard to watch.



he is without a doubt alienating her against me. Without a doubt. If the judge asks the right kind of questions, that will be a known fact. I can honestly say, this child can not tell a lie. She won't even try.

Last edited by No_Stress_Zone; 07/13/11 10:01 PM. Reason: removed a line

I am 52, stbxh is 46
One child together 15 DD
2 (mine) from 1st marriage, 26 dd and 28 ds.
Married Dec 94
Separated Oct 09
Too many D-Days to list. (EA/Cyber affairs)
He filed no fault 3-2011 I countered with grounds.
Court date set for June 6, 2011 for Final Decree and was continued.
That ticked him off, he is now fighting for custody.
Lawyers are expensive, my daughter is worth every penny.
Even the ones I have to borrow.

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