I posted a few weeks back about talking to a guy in another country for emotional support because i was having some issues with my husband. The guy and I were just friends, casual chats but i did like him because of his sincerity and truthfulness. He is few years younger then myself. I am married for over 12 years and have a 8 year old. Everyone on the forum suggested i need to confess and talk to my husband. I did eventually. We are going through some problems right now like jobless and some other family issues. my husband went really fast forward with the whole thing and did not react the way i thought he would to the whole thing. he said to focus on the current problems, look for the job and get busy. that I have these insecurities forever and I need to work on those. He did not want to even acknowledge once that we did have issues in the past or still have that need to be worked on. Blamed it on the family issues relating to parents getting old. I still feel like I am not getting through him or not explaining really well. Now i did not get into any details about the other guy. just told him that for the past two months i was talking to him and in fact withheld my martial status from the guy and he fell for me and eventually i told him about my truth and he did not care, we kept talking etc. I don't understand my husband's behavior, is he in denial or he does not care? he was little bit mentally exhausted though after the talk he went to sleep but he does not want to talk about past or any of this, just move forward really fast like nothing happened. he says he needs to stay logical and sane since right now we have lots of other serious issues to deal with. I am confused, guilty and clueless?