Again, I am in a state of shock. My WH had an A six months ago. D-day was 1/9/11. The A had been going on for 6 weeks and from what I understand was just about sex. I may be stupid, but I really did believe that.

The OW is a woman from his work. I didn't insist he leave his job, mostly due to finances. We need that income. He had little to no contact with her at work over the last 6 months and told me about the interactions that he had to have.

Yesterday I found out that he meet her last week. Apparently she sent him a text (he did change his cell phone number, but she found it) and was threatening to send me a text. He says he was scared of what she was going to send me. That he was afraid it would set us backwards. That is his reasoning for meeting her....they had lunch at a local resturant and someone saw him. She did send me a text, which I responded to her to get counseling and leave me alone. I asked him that night if he had any contact with her and he lied. He didn't tell me she texted him or that they meet. If he knew why she was contacting me after 6 months??? He said he read her text to me and then told her to leave us alone.

What do I do? I really thought we were working this out. I feel like he is going to lie to me forever, but he is begging for another chance. I am so confused and feel so alone. Is giving him another chance just asking for more pain??

Well, this never had a chance because they still work together. The affair never ended. Don't believe me? Just call his girlfriend.

In order to recover, your husband has to take STEP ONE: no contact for life. Calling his affair "business contact" or agreeing to tell you about contact is futile. If an alcoholic changes the name of his drinks to "business drinks" and tells you whenever he drinks, will he ever sober up? No, he will not.

So, take the first step. He ends the job. Otherwise this will be your lot in life.

Is this ho married? And if so, have you told her husband? Does their employer know about the affair?

I just read on your previous thread that I already told you this months ago. Do you believe me now that recovery is impossible unless he leaves that job?