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Does anyone know exactly how long Sue's affair lasted? I cannot find how long John was in Plan B. Can someone point me to where Dr. H may have more information on that situation?
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I don't recall if it was one year from discovery or almost two.
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It sounds like the affair lasted a year, at the most - 6 months Plan A, 6 months or less in Plan B: Most affairs last less than six months after they are exposed to the light of day. A very few may survive two years of sunlight but that is rare, especially when a betrayed spouse lets go and gives the affair a chance to destroy itself. Jon had already agreed to a six-month deadline for plan A, so he added another eighteen months for plan B -- a total of two years. If that time had expired without reconciliation, he would have divorced Sue.
But Sue's affair ended just as most affairs end.
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I asked that question myself but only got smartass responses. Thanks for that reply Prisca
Me = BH
DDay Dec. 2010
D filed Oct 2011 (by me)
D final 3/16/12
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I was reading last night that John did not last the full 6 months in Plan A before Sue moved out and then switched to Plan B after she returned for a week and moved out again. He had allowed for 18 months of Plan B. But I don't think there is a definite timeframe on how long it took, just on how long the plan a and b were for. That was my take anyway!
Me (BW): 35
Married 1999 with no kids, DDay July 2011, OC born September 2012, Divorce final November 2012.
WXH (Gollum) is corrupted by his A, and now forever bound to it.
Plan B has set me free.
"Mourn the man he was. Know the man he is."
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Note the total time allowance was 2 years just to end the affair and begin reconciliation; 6 months of Plan A and 18 of Plan B.
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