Hey Everyone! I'm new and am desperate for some direction. I have been divorced for 8 years and have 2 wonderful children ages 11 and 16. I was married very young to a man who became very abusive.I was grateful to God to have escaped the dysfunction. Upon my divorce I did lots of counseling and worked very hard to correct my insecurities and inability to recognize red flags and years later a wonderful man did find me. After 3.5 yrs of dating we are engaged. It seems Marriagebuilders is for those who are married-would you suggest Dr. H's courses for premarital preperation or is there anything else out there for pre-marital prep-Im determined this do-over can't be done until we have all the ammunition for a happily ever after this time.

Hi 40nEngaged! Congratulations on your engagement!

Here is Dr Harley's book about preparing for marriage:

I Promise You


I Promise You
preparing for a marriage that will last a lifetime


Soon you'll be standing before a minister and you'll be asked to repeat very important promises to each other -- promises to love and care for each other, protect each other, and spend the rest of your lives together. You'll make those promises before God, your family, and all who have come to witness your marriage. You'll exchange rings that symbolize your commitment to those promises.

But when you make them, will you really understand what they mean? And will you keep them every day for the rest of your lives?

Care. Protection. Honesty. Time. These are the four key promises I encourage you to make to each other -- and to keep for a lifetime.

I Promise You walks you through the four key promises, showing you practical ways to make them work in your marriage. Give these gifts to each other, and you will begin your marriage the right way. Continue to give them through all the ups and downs of daily married life, and you will grow in love and compatibility throughout your lifetime together. (Hardcover - 192 pages)

Congratulations, we wish you well!

Thank you, Melodylane for once again having just the right help when it is needed!