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I am a wayward wife who just ended an affair that lasted a year. I am truly sorry for what I did. I am ashamed and devastated and sick to my stomach. I want to honor God, my marriage and my husband from this day on. I want to really hate my sin and move forward to healing my marriage. Is there someone who could pray for endurance for me ? I am in the withdrawal period right now and I do not want to regress. I truly want my marriage to last. I want to heal what I broke. I am so sorry.
me: FWW/BW
Married 20 years, 4 kids
We made it.
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PleaseSetMeFree, welcome to Marriage Builders. The first step in restoration is making amends to your victim. Have you told your husband what you have done and offered to give him just compensation?
That is the first step in healing your marriage. Telling us you are sorry won't help your marriage, but telling your husband you are sorry WILL. Honesty is the first step.
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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p.s. I would click the notify button and ask the moderators to move this to Surviving an Affair so you can get help recovering your marriage. Marriage Builders has an excellent plan to recover your marriage.
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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Thank you Melody Lane. My husband is out of the country for another week but YES I want to tell him. I know that our marriage cannot be restored keeping a secret like this, and he deserves to know. I do not want to cover my sin.
me: FWW/BW
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That is a great first step! Like I said, please click on notify and ask the mods to move this to the other forum. You will get lots of help recovering your marriage.
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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Heavenly Father I pray for this wife that you would be with her giving her wisdom and the strength she needs to endure. Lord I pray you would be with her in her journey to resolve issues in her marriage and bring it to a place where it needs to be. Lord I pray she would seek wise counsel to be able to deal with these issues. Father bless this couple and allow the husband see the repentance that is there. I pray for Your help Father.
In Jesus name,
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I have confessed to my husband. He has forgiven me. We are trying to restore our marriage. I will say it is VERY hard but we are taking it one day at a time and hoping that as the withdrawal symptoms subside that we will be able to move forward and get to a good and stable place once again. If I had known how much pain this would cause (both to me and to my husband)I would never have done this. Oh the consequences of sin. But I deserve every bit of it and hope that this journey will be one of healing. Thank you.
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Good job, SetMeFree! If you want help recovering your marriage, I would suggest posting over on the Surviving an Affair forum and asking for help. We can show you how to restore the romantic love and affair proof your marriage.
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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PleaseSetMeFree, please consider posting on the forums. We can help you! I'm concerned that you think you've confessed and you feel that is all that is required. There is so much that you can do to recover your marriage and make it great! Please consider starting a thread on the Surviving An Affair forum so you can get help in recovering your marriage.
We're here for you.
D-Day 2-10-2009
Fully Recovered and Better Than Ever!
Thank you Marriage Builders!
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