My husband and I have been married 24 years. I am 53 years old. Around my 40th birthday I started hanging out with some old friends from high school...trying to recapture my youth I guess. One night my husband and I went out to a bar with all my old friends and my old boyfriend from high school was there. I acted a fool and went after him...I guess just to prove I still HAD IT? I made a fool of myself and humilated my husband. He has never ever gotten over it even though we have gone over it many times in the past thirteen years. We did not have sex but I did sneak off to the back with him. My husband says that if I just tell the truth it will be over and he will forgive me but I wasnt truthful in the beginning so now anthing i say he says I am lying I love my husband very much what do i do?

Polygraph. Should put any doubts to rest.

Was there something wrong with your first thread?

http://forum.marriagebuilders.com/ubbt/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2534997&page=1

Even with different people on here, you will receive pretty much the same responses. This is a MARRIAGE BUILDERS website, and we hold people accountable.

It is all meant to help you. It would benefit you greatly to LEARN here.

Question: Was it really just kissing or was there petting too? Is it ever really "just kissing"?

I mean kissing *is* cheating...

I think this is your husband's point. You cheated on him.

A very good question.

To add there is kissing and there is kissing. You went out back to be alone, you left out how long this session went on. And, by the way how did BH find out? Who else knew what was going on there that night? (see if this has been said on the other thread then easier to find out what has been said then rehashing everything here)

Changing threads does not help you get better advice. You had some very good people helping you. Best to stay on one thread. As people get to know more the level of advice gets better. Being all over the place will not be as helpful.

Also a good indication as to why things are not getting better for you and your BH is by the way you label things and minimize things and hide things as the way you titled this thread:

"getting over past indiscretion"

I can picture you telling your BH why aren't you over this by now and it was only an indiscretion.