I think I answered your question in another thread. But you asked why our H did see that we loved them and wanted to stay with them even though they cheated on us and lied to us. Well the problem is that when they started thiss trip into fantasy land they left all the good parts at the gate. They left their morality, love, brains. compassion, faith , everything that is good. And until they leave this fantasy land they will not get those back. It takes along time to regain this parts back. Until they do they can not see what we want. To make our marriage work. Maybe this will answer your question. <P>------------------<BR>di<P>