My H just left today to see the other W. He made great pretenses of going to visit her to "get everything all settled" (ie end it with her). I have been trying not to LoveBust but am ending up paying for everything while he is basically carried by me and his parents. Since we are still married, but legally separated since in a community property state, I have been paying the car insurance. He took my debit card and ran up charges. He promised to pay me back when he got paid. Today was the day he was leaving and today was his payday. He told me something happened with paychecks and he wouldn't be able to get it. He knows that I am struggling to handle all the expenses on my own. I wasn't stupid and called his job. He did pick up his check and lied to me. When will this stop? I am going to repossess his truck (which belongs to me) and sell it to cover my losses. I cannot be a doormat any longer, but I'm afraid that will be the end of the relationship. Are some people just bad? Should I try to continue a relationship with someone who lies to me, their kids, and his family. He borrowed money from his sister, telling her it was for me, and then turned around and bought a ticket to see the OW.

this sounds horrendous! only you know if he is worth it. but as a non-expert i would say go to plan b and try to get whatever money you can and mind your own life. he sounds like an addict. whenever possible don't let him drain your money or anything else. it sounds like you could use some nurturing and love and fun. i would try to do what i liked to do and spend time with supportive friends-and let him try to do it all alone. if you can, suggest to his parents that they cut the strings. read the plan b stuff on this site again too.

obviously, your h is addicted to this woman. hes only thinking with his "you know what" and not the head on his shoulders, that dont make things right. go ahead and get the truck and seel it as if its yours you have a right to and you need to pay your bills and survive. take care of yourself first now, and take a giant step back before committing to do anything. prayer and time alone are very good combinations. ill pray for you, keep looking up.<BR>jerry

I understand completely...7 months separated for me and not one penny have I seen... I wish just once H would have asked "Do you or the girls need anything...?" But It wouldn't help, he has no money and is living at his moms.... But wait.... I remember he came up with 85$ when OW needed it for OC...<P>Whats the use?<BR>Im beginning to think that some of them are NOT worth it....But I also don't believe in divorse.... ROCK < >HARDSPOT <P>What do ya do.... I'll pray for you Kate..<P>cozy<BR>

thank you much, cozy. I get a lot of comfort from coming here.

Hi Kate,<P>Yep, toolbox has the idea, it is an addiction.<P>Check out:<BR>"Breaking free of the co-dependency trap" and "Counter-dependency: Flight from intimacy" by Barry and Janae Weinhold at <A HREF="http://www.weinholds.org/" TARGET=_blank>http://www.weinholds.org/</A> <P>Hugz,<BR>Thoughtful (Deb)<BR>