Today is my 27th anniversary and I'm really hurting. A few weeks ago my husband, who has always been a self centered person, hooked up with an old high school class mate when she came into town. Since then, they've been talking daily. I was sleeping one night upstairs, and, I woke up and went down stairs to listen to their conversation. I was told he told her to call him when she got off of work and they were just catching up on ole times and he just needed to talk to someone. Of course he didn't know how I heard him "selling" himself.

I am retiring this weekend, and, made plans next week to visit my son out of state for 5 days. My husband in turn made plans to go visit this woman the day after I left and return the day before I do. He did tell me, and, he also told me at that time he wanted a seperation. To take place next week.

I then discovered an email note to her refering to "how things were rising as he was thinking about her".

This really hurt. He sees nothing wrong with what he has done. As I exposed him to our children and his sisters, the other womans mother, and the preacher, he finally realized what he did was not in good taste. So, he has thought about post poning the trip.

He says he isn't sure he wants a divorce or not, but, he needs to visit this woman to see if he has any feelings left for me.

I think that said it in a nutshell. But, he is not thinking rationally.

Does anyone have any words of wisdom? Was I justified to expose him and this woman? He did lose respect especially from our children. Of course, he is now blaming me for doing the wrong thing and telling anyone.

Needs to see her is a bunch of B.S.
My Wayward Wife pulled that on July 11th and has been in a long distance physical affair ever since. Maybe I am just jaded, but just say no...I am sure the vets will jump on this fast Listen to Them....
Oh by the way Lots of us know the pain you are going through, and how nutty your husband is acting

Oh and Heii yeah you were justified....its called nip it in the bud before it gets out of hand

Beep beep, he is not going to see her for any other reason than to have sex with her. Is she married? Does she have kids?

I would strongly advise you to go on her Facebook account and expose this affair to her family and friends. Tell them about the affair and ask them to use their influence to persuade her to leave your husband alone. If she is married, get ahold of her H right away.
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And DO NOT go out of town to see your son next week. Instead, tell your H you will be going to see the OW WITH HIM.

I want to APPLAUD you for exposing the affair. Everyone should know about the despicable thing he is doing.

And put a GPS on his vehicle ASAP.

Don't let this happen. My gut says this affair is already physical.

Kill it now by exposing it to everyone, starting with your pastor, friends, family, and then her family and friends.

Exposure will kill this and will stop this little trip of theirs.

Well NOTHING going on with the wayward and his skankho IS in good taste and you are amazing, truly amazing to have already begun the exposure.

KILL THIS AFFAIR DEAD and do so as Mel said w/the FB exposure. Put this skank in her place!

This is YOUR weekend you retire, and she should not take anything away from you or that...especially your husband and family.

Look, I am going to be sweet here but have to get it out. If your wayward husband is writing about stuff "rising", then their affair is PHYSICAL by now. Men are visual creatures and
if he spent any time alone with her, maybe longer than five minutes, they had sex.

Men don't want to go spend almost a week with some woman if it doesn't involve sex (unless it's a relative or mom or daughter). This is probably a post midlife crisis, where the skankho reminded him of maybe how he was the football hero in high school or that she was on the pep squad and they are reminiscing and trying to USE each other to feel younger. She is probably feeding his ego and need for admiration 24/7 and YOU NEED TO DEMAND HE STOP TALKING TO HER and also DEMAND TO GO WITH HIM TO SEE OW IF HE GOES TOO.

I would go several steps further and gain access into their sleazy little fantasy fueled bubble by putting a var (voice activated recorder) in his car. Go to Operation Investigate forum directly below SAA here, and learn how to successfully snoop. You're going to need it and do not be shocked when you find out this affair IS physical.

I would also have the gps on his car, and also have his phone and computers with spyware on them so you can see what he is writing or emailing or messaging to that skank. It will probably surprise you.

This skank is after YOUR HUSBAND, YOUR LIFE and it is YOUR JOB to squash her like a slimy little slug.

Expose this wench and let the world know of the sleazy affair. let the world see her slime trail following behind her wherever she goes.