I "discovered" my husband's emotional affair in September 98, "confronted" in October 98, and "joined" this forum in December 1998. My husband (Frans H always) and I have been in recovery for over a year with tremendous help from many people. One person who had an impact on my life was Glenn, one of the first members to respond to my desperate cries for help. During many trying times for my husband and I, Glenn was always there to offer his thoughts.<P>For the last couple of weeks, I have been having an extremely difficult time with depression, and questioning everything about my marriage. My husband and I sat down for 5 days and discussed everything: his feelings, my feelings, where do we go from here? There are no easy answers...but I came back to Marriage Builders yesterday afternoon and searched for posts that might provide insight for me. That's when I saw Carol's post of Glenn's death.<P>Words cannot describe my feelings of loss. I have lost a friend, even though we never met. Yet, Glenn's death opened other feelings for me. My husband held me as I cried and grieved for what Glenn had been through, had re-found, and was now gone forever. <P>This was the last message posted specifically to me from Glenn.<P> <BLOCKQUOTE><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><HR>Hey Fran;<P>Glad to hear that I have positively influenced anyone. I wish you the best. I know that my own perspectives on love and marriage have been unalterably changed. <P>I still feel hurt, but wish I didn't. A friend of mine called me this morning to inform me he only has 25% of his heart's capacity. He is going to die soon. His wife cheated on him several years ago and he never recovered. I heard Wynnona Judd talk about the effects of depression taking away the value of life and leading to death. I believe this to be true. Somewhere along this hard and graveled path we need to regain our love. If not, we will die.<HR></BLOCKQUOTE><P>This morning, I realize that, yet again, Glenn has helped me, even though he will never know it. It is time to turn myself around, and treasure what I have in my husband and my marriage. I must work harder and be stronger, and give my love to him freely. This I will do. Because, as Glenn said, <B>"Somewhere along this hard and graveled path we need to regain our love. If not, we will die."</B><P>Because of Glenn, I refuse to give up. <BR>

Hugs to you, Fran and Fran H always.<P>What a profound last post.<P>Thank you, Glenn.<P>TNT

HI,<BR> What was Glenn's "handle" here? I'd like to read his posts. THANKS AND PRAYERS TO HIS FAMILY. FRANK

His handle was "Glenn". His wife's handle is "Carol". <P>Glenn wrote beautiful poetry to express his feelings. Very touching. You may find some of his poems under the poetry section, but I know I have read his poetry here on the infidelity section as well.<P>We'll miss Glenn.