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I just don't think there is any way that I could ever trust her again.
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85,
Trust is a funny word around here. Don't get hung up on it in the traditional sense, because you shouldn't nor should not have blindly trusted in the first place.
That said, if you are ready and willing to do the work (step 1, get info and get ready for exposure), you can rebuild to have a relationship where trust is based on action.
In other words, trust is a verb here. So is the word "love".
If you said "I love my wife", I'd ask how. How do you demonstrate that every day? You might very well be able to recite all of the things you did today. Now, if you said "I trust my wife", I'd ask the same thing...how? How did you trust your wife today? See how that works?
That said, you need to learn NOW what is going on NOW, alright? Get evidence quietly.
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Part of this is you don't trust them again, so don't worry about that right now.
All of us on the BS side of the aisle know exactly how you feel. Put that into motivation, follow the plan and when they tell you to expose and set the bar high for her return - make sure you do that.
Best of luck
FBH,Dad
No half measures, in anything.
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"I have a feeling she leads a completely secret second life you don't know about."
Me too. Dude, you've gotta get a PI and get the full scope of what is going on here.
I'd bet my next paycheck that she's with him now (just like the rest here). Of course, could be wrong. Several ways to find out, and you can't (NO -- SHOULDN'T) do a darned thing until you know what you're dealing with.
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