has anyone here been through an alienation of affection lawsuit? just wondering about any experiences out there..thanks

No sorry doesn't apply here. Stick to one thread it makes it a lot easier. Don't worry we are still here for you.

i wanted it to be a different thread so people would read it specifically for this purpose..i'm seriously considering pursuing this but would like somebody to tell me their experience...thanks

there is a case WON in MS and in NC. I think u should give it a shot if u have grounds and the means. Make sure u file within the statue of limitations. Is this a law in the state where u live?

I would like to know more about this too. What is the purpose? Other than to tick people off... justice... lol

So I'm illinois...the chances that I'll will monetary damages are basically nil...it is to try to get OM to back-off..to state that it's too much trouble to be with my wife...he would have to retain a lawyer as well so it would cost him money and time...obviously would cost me money and time...it'd probably be cheaper to try and buy him off haha but don't think that would work

contacted my divorce lawyer today..states he doesn't do those cases so he referred me to someone else..will see what he says

in north carolina however i read that you can sue for compensatory and punitive damages so the chances of getting a big payday there are much better

My roommate/friend got a successful judgement against the OW in her divorce. We're in North Carolina.

I am going to file in Virginia a lawsuit for infliction of emotional distress/mental anguish against WH and OW. I am using it not only to depose OW, but also make her look at my WH as a pain in her butt, and dump him. I am going to have it coincide with the D on grounds of adultery.

I am working the details with lawyers now. It may not go anywhere, but it is part of my killing this affair. It is really making WH very angry that I have OW involved. Anything to lift him out of his deep, deep fog.

So it took awhile but the alienation of affections suit was filed beginning of june, it took a while but OM was served end of july. His attorneys responded last week, requesting a jury demand and today I got a demand for a bill of particulars supporting my allegations. This seems like what the discovery process is for, but seeing if there's anyway to use this demand to my advantage. Thanks

Hi abc! That is awesome! What does your attorney recommend? Can you subpeona his email and text records? I am not familiar with AA lawsuits but I know you can do this in divorce suits that are filed on grounds of adultery. They also drag the OM into court to give sworn testimony about his affair.

we will be trying to do all of the above through the divorce, unfortunately everything takes time in the legal process

i figure i'll use this thread to chronicle the legal proceedings...so I had counterfiled under grounds of adultery lats month...i just got a letter from my wife's lawyer stating that she admits to adultery, previous to that they filed a motion to set a trial date...she just wants to end it...my attorney just send out depositions requests for her, OM, and a few other people...we'll see what happens...

Geez kid, remind me to never cross you. LOL

Glad to see you're giving it to them.

Hows the rest of your life going?

haha..thanks for chiming in...life is good...I moved halfway across the country a couple months ago, have a new job I love...I think like all other people going through divorce I miss the companionship of someone and don't like being alone but time is healing my wounds...

I am so glad this thread came up. It is a wonderful tool to use against the affair.

Imho, I know of one person who used this and was successful in the state of MS. It was yet another nail in the coffin sealing the doom of the affair.

You use this as a tool to not only end the affair, but let's be honest and face it. YOUR MARITAL ASSETS WERE USED in the proliferation of the affair. Your monies were used and you didn't have a say in that, but your wayward spouse did behind your back and so did the ow or om. They gladly used up whatever they could get their slimy hands on.

So this is just compensation too. Why NOT recoup the monies back if you can?

But the big bonus in this is the discovery of emails, IM's, communication and secrecy within the affair which will aid in it's quicker demise. Having to reveal these things IN PUBLIC, in court, and have it become written as part of a document anybody can request at the court clerks' office puts it as history.

it is irrefutable. It cannot be called "heresay". It cannot be called "defamation of character" as so many ow and om claim on d day. IT IS FACT.

And the info gleaned can be used again in the other hearings too, such as a custody or divorce hearing. Very very nice to have that I'd say on your side.

But it also becomes a total pain in the butt for the OP. It will COST THEM MONEY. More than the settlement because you also ATTACH TO THE COST and monies owed you, the bs, the attorney fees as well. Attach your attny fees to it.

If that law is valid in your state (should be in ALL states if you ask me) then file against the op and ask for as much as you can and break the affair down and expose. Use this as another tool of exposure. I'd call this almost the ultimate exposure imho. Because it becomes law. It becomes a document the world can read if they so choose to in our country.

Found this since here in KS we cant do the alienation of affection.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Intentional_infliction_of_emotional_distress

In some states you can also sue for tortuous interference of contract (contract being the marriage)