habadahabada -- I too try to respond to post which I feel I can offer advice to. Yes, sometimes I get so caught up in posts which are at the top of the screen, and neglect to look toward the bottom.<P>I just checked your profile, and it only shows you having made one post(this one). there have been times when post have been lost by the system. That may have been what happened with yours. I am not trying to make any excuses, but it has happened to me before, so I know it can happen.<P>Please start a new thread so that we can try to help, or you can E-Mail me at MB_Empty_Shell@hotmail.com Don't give up on us Shawna.<P>God Bless

Katya --<P>If my system wouldn't have acted up so much, I would have responded quicker...<P>PLEASE DON'T GO!<P>Your advice and posts have given a lot of us hope and thoughts at an otherwise UGLY time in our lives.<P>You cannot always be positive. Remember, part of this site is for venting. If not here, then many kids, dogs, and co-workers would be in deep brown stuff.<P>I'm realitively new to the site. You've responded to my posts, and to others in similar situations like me. And, how many times have you read a post, can relate to the circumstances, yet didn't feel that your response added anything that wasn't already said. There's nothing wrong with that.<P>We all need a place like this -- you included. And, sometimes we need it the most when we're feeling down or negative. Let us help you out like you've helped us.<P>RE: Cliques. Like I said, I new. But everyone seems to be responding when I've posted. The advice has been great, even better than counseling. It always helps to hear from persons that can relate without having them judge you. <P>PLEASE STAY WITH IT AND DON'T GO<P>-- keystone<p>[This message has been edited by keystone (edited November 01, 1999).]

Katya, I really would hate to see you go from the forum, especially if you are feeling so low and negative. I have experienced the same feelings you have about no responses to posts, etc, but it doesn't really bother me anymore. Sometimes it just helps to sit down and vent it all out in writing. And remember, 99.9% someone does read the post. I have enjoyed your posts to me and hope you will only take a break for a while if you feel the need to leave.<P>Hugs to you.

Me too, Nerly. R & B,<P>--Wex

Katya,<BR> I hope you havent left here. I know how<BR> you feel, I feel too ,like I dont belong, the outsider.I dont get to read this forum as much as I would like to right now because<BR> of work.I'm sure there have been times when I havent known what to say,but I should have at least let the person know i'm thinking of them .I hope you decide to stay.

Just wanted everybody to know that I read each of the posts.Thanks for trying to cheer me up and some of you such as Nerlycrzy for understanding about the responses. Liz Smith, I did not know I was the first one to respond to you. I have been feeling very down and depressed because nothing seems like anything is really changing in my marriage. I haven't gotten like this in a while. I decided, after reading your posts, that I will be taking more breaks from the posts, but, popping in and out still. I realize that Liz has been searching for me and posting to me for help, and feel that right now, I should try to help her and others that have responded for me not to go. I can't promise that I will not be negative. I hate being negative. I'd rather not say anything if that is what I am going to be. I'd rather give good sound advice with positive influences. It is nice to know that some members do care whether I stay or go. It sure makes the sadness turn into a smile. Sorry I have been really down. I was always on this forum posting and reading everyday. So, for now, I will be taking a break, but, I will still post every now and then. Thanks for caring and understand. Wexwill, you do well without my input...you always get alot of responses. But, I'll still reply to your anyway. Victoria, if you post your problem, I will respond and try not to be negative. You have told me that you came on for help and pretty much got attacked. Don't shy away from posting. I wanna hear your story and help. If it helps, you can just post your story to me if your afraid of negativity for the cliques.<BR>I understand. I feel like I just got hugs from everybody. Thanks for being here for me.

Dear Kat1:<BR>Oh, I forgot to tell you something...soooo, your the one with the nickname of mine. I looked on my posts 2 weeks ago and there were posts from 1998. I had to write to the office and tell them that that "Katya" was not me. I just became a member in August. So, I wondered who this other Katya was. I was surprised that someone picked the same name. What made you pick that name? Out of curiousity...because that is an ethnic name.

Hi Katya, glad you'll still be with us. I also take breaks sometimes ( well most of the times because I'm busy or tired, but breaks neverthelesss )<BR>I choose Katya because its my name. MOm read a story a long time ago, and loved the name.<P><BR>Hugs<BR>Kat<P>P.S. don't feel bad about the negative thing, we all went trough negative phases at one time or other, and even during those phases we were able( for the most part ) to come out with coherent thoughts that were helpfull.<P><P>------------------<BR>Each and everyone of us is deserving of a kind word, a gentle thought, and the gift of understanding.