OWs don't care about you or your children, they sooner they are out of the picture the better, so don't bother with OW.

Expose nuclear, and then hunker down, as you will be considered the villain. But it will end.

v --

Stop listening to anything that your husband has to say.
He will lie to your face. He will swear on your childrens lives. He will be dispicable.

You have to run this show. You have to expose this to everyone -- especially the OtherWomans family and friends. Tell THEM that you are fighting for your family, and would appreciate them talking to OW about ending this affair and stop being a homewrecker!

You should also confront her. But not until after you have exposed.

Hi all, thanks for advice given, I did not send that email, I agree with you all, I've sent messages to at least 5 seemingly decent people on her FB, most of her friends are single men and a few single woman, I thought it would not do me much good asking for thier advice as they might not understand my point. From the list that I used, those individuals dont use FB frequently, so not sure when I will get any response from them. I've asked MIL to call OP again, but this time she was unwilling as she disclosed to me that WS and her are not on talking terms, she also mentioned that WS asked his sister to apologise to OP about his mom calling her, because she was threatening to commit suicide, so SIL did just that, actually apologised to OP on MIL behalf, which now gives OP the impression that WS family are ok with the affair, i now feel so down after hearing that, and I am beginning to wonder if there is any point in fighting anymore, i am thinking of packing my bags and leaving without notice, WS will never hear from me again. I feel embarrassed.

Well he really hit gold with this OW. A person who controls everyone by threathening suicide. A real catch that is! You see, you are behaving like a civilized person and she is a nut case!

I do not know if your sister-in-law understands that she is rewarding this kind of childish behaviour.
But you can still ask them to speak with WH (I assume he is not suicidal?!) Why should THEY even bother to speak to OW anyway. Just be nice to in-laws and NORMAL. They should be influencing your WH to leave this psychiatrically challenged and manipulative human being. The OW family/friends should influence OW to keep away from a married man. Don't argue with in-laws, just politely ask them to use their influence on HW because of the heartbroke children etc.

Just hang in there a bit. You don't want to miss the fun from having broken up their ugly little affair, do you? And if it is the last thing you do...

You can do it. Have you exposed to all targets?

Hang on. Happyheart

By the way, you don't have to feel embarrassed. The waywards should feel embarrassed that everyone knows they are putting their selfish needs before the needs of two innocent children.

I am glad to inform you that I've received a response from some of the OW family members, although they claim to be her distant relatives they have expressed their deepest sympathy about her behaviour, they have given me their word that they will try to assist me. WS found out that I disclosed his affair to the OW's family by snooping thru my FB messages, he confronted me and politely expressed his dissappointment in me for involving myself in his affair ( can u believe that, as if I dont have the right to! ) anyways I told him that I had the right to fight for my marriage in which ever way, I cant help the way he feels but at the end of the day what he is doing is wrong and everybody including the OW's family needs to be aware of that. He even secretly deleted the OW's familys response to me, but I recovered them anyways, this gave me more steam to send out more messages to the OW's family, this time I think the ppl I sent the messages to are her closest family members, so I will keep praying that this will work to my advantage.

Oh v, this needs to be added to craziest things out of a wayward's piehole HE involved OW in YOUR marriage. I found it interesting about the polite disappointment though, most WS seem to rant and rave from what I have heard, though my WH was similar after exposure... other then a curt text he avoided me for 2 weeks, then had a couple of chats before icily telling me he was angry about exposure as he did "not have an affair". But neither could he deny having sex with another woman, just crazy wayward logic or lack thereof.

Congrats with the exposure, stay strong regardless of the response, you are simply telling the truth and fighting the good fight.

****** THREAD JACK ALERT ******

Viva la difference!

OW - I'm thinking of killing myself because I was exposed as an AP!
Confronting Female - Oh, you poor dear! Let me apologize on behalf of the person who caused you such pain!

OM - I'm thinking of killing myself because I was exposed as an AP!
Confronting Male - Good, enough, dude! I'll sharpen the knife, load the gun, refill your pill prescription. What's your pleasure?

****** END THREAD JACK ******

Keep driving, Dozendozen! Maybe you can hit hard enough to get WH to whine to Dr. H!

I'm grateful to all who have encouraged me to expose, because it helped me deal with the resentment issues I had built towards WS over the past couple of weeks, I actually feel at peace now more than before I exposed, at this stage even though the exposure didn't do much to destroy the affair, I'm glad that it helped me let go of the anger and bitterness I had towards WS, I've been happier of late, WS even suspects I'm up to something. Now I'm just working on myself and trying to be good, no nasty plans up my sleeves anymore.

v, I would get all of your exposures done in ONE DAY. Don't trickle them out. Get it done so there is tsunami effect. And wait for your H to find out. If he doesn't hear about it from the OW, then be sure and tell him. Be loud and proud about exposure! And if he gets angry, just ask him why he would be angry if he is doing nothing wrong? Why would the skankyho be upset unless she is doing something wrong?

Let him know that your family may give him an opportunity to EARN their forgiveness in the future if he will end his affair and stop abusing you. Don't allow him to abuse your family for defending you, v1212.

You should DEMAND that he end his affair. Don't allow this to continue. If he goes to see this ho, then you show up there. Have you contacted her father? Have you gone to her family's home yourself? You need to raise holy hell in his affair and don't stop until it is killed. Your H is very foggy and very brazen. You need to help wake him up!

Will they give you the contact information of the OW's parents and grandparents? Here is the PM you should send out on facebook[change to suit your situation]:

Dear friend of Skankyhola,

It is with great regret that I send this letter but I believe all of her friends should be aware that Skanky is having an affair with my husband, Joe. We have been married for 5 years and have 3 heartbroken children. They have been having this affair since October according to the evidence.

I would be happy to provide the evidence to anyone who asks.

I would ask that you use your influence with Skanky to persuade her to leave my husband alone. You should also watch your own husbands around her because she is no friend to marriage.

I would appreciate it if someone would notify her parents and ask them to call me at xxx-www-xxxx.

Thank you, BW

WS confronted me again regarding disclosure to OPs family, apparently OP called WS requesting he meet her, they discussed over the phone that OPs parents confronted her about this affair, OP expressed her dissappointement about the way things turned out, as I write this WS is out with OP discussing thier next step and the repercussions caused by the exposure. again in a polite way WS expressed his deepest sorrow and dissapointment by the way i went about trying to win him back, and said I may have even drawn him closer to OP as he now feels he needs to protect her from all this, he expressed that he feels trapped, He has even asked me to go away on a holiday for sometime. I'm not sure what I should do, do you think its wise for me to go on holiday, should I stay and continue to work on plan A for at least 3 weeks or should I now start working on plan B. I would apprecaite anyones advice, please help.

Yeah, go on holiday by all means, dear. You know I need time of to develop my sexual relationship with another woman, over which I am currently breaking up our family. You would not by any chance want to interfere with such a just and noble cause would you???????

You caused the sore little prostitute home breaker a tiny little heartache. And now I need time to soothe her pretty little feelings, lest she treathens suicide, you know. And suicide is bad, because if she is crying and treathening, there is no boom-boom going on, darling.

I am sure you understand and will get out of my sordid and selfish way, my love.

Your WS and his AP are experiencing the repercussions of THEIR disgraceful actions.

Don't leave your home. Let him leave if he wants to continue his skanky adultery. But you stay.

If you feel emotionally strong enough, then stay put and in Plan A for a maximum of three weeks. Remember not to expect anything from your WS during this time. Plan A is for you to shine as a wife so that if you do separate for Plan B, he will remember what a terrific woman you are. Meet his ENs as much as he will let you, but don't expect him to meet yours during this time. That's why Plan A is so emotionally tough on women. But hang in there until you know your LB is being drained.

While you are in Plan A, get yourself ready financially, legally, and logistically for Plan B.

This forum has some great Plan B advisers. They'll be along soon with their help.

Nice that he is so worried about HER feelings, how noble.

Tell him that you've happened upon a brilliant solution to this problem, as follows: If he will stop slutting around with her, then she'll no longer need protection from the deserved fallout that results from brazenly slutting around with another woman's husband! Explain that surely he can see the clean elegance of this simple solution! (Speak in your best, honey-drizzled voice, and smile as you share this exciting news with him.)

Translation: He wants you to leave so that he can shag her in your bed without your interference.
Tell him, thanks but no, you're his wife, this is your marriage and your home and your bed, and he needn't worry, you won't be leaving.

You do NOT leave. You have nothing to run from.

Also, is all of your exposure done? You did very GOOD with the exposure, because it did exactly what it was intended to do. In a few weeks, you will feel better about exposing.

Plan A like a rockstar. Don't discuss divorce with him, tell him that you don't talk divorce, you talk marriage instead. Don't suggest that he leave, let him do it if he wants to.

You are about to embark on the hardest journey you have ever had. MB and DrH' programs are the best for someone trying to survive their spouses affair

At the day of exposure to my In-Laws my WW asked me to please leave the POSOM out of it!.....leave him alone.
How insulting!!!.....when they're foggy.....they GO FULL FOGGY!!!
I had confronted the POSOM "face to face" the previous week!!!
WW just didn't know about it yet!

WS spent the whole weekend with OP, now i feel so depressed, Im beginning to wonder if exposure did not push them even closer together, maybe I helped their relationship become stronger. I feel lonely, sad and regretful. I've been looking for success stories on MB about exposure but only found 2, which made me more depressed. where can I find success stories, and do I need to get a separation agreement made up before leaving. Right now I dont think I have the will power to continue plan A, I think I've done enough plan A, I am slowly dying inside. WS is worse than b4, he is like a demon. and what are the benefits of 100% no contact in plan B, wont it drive them towards marriage?