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will check in tomorrow when back to work. Thanks everyone.
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eventually you get to a point where it really doesn't matter what other people think, the problem is you still have to deal with what you have done. This is exactly what my FWH told me when it was clear that many people knew about the A. He said he was willing to stand up in a room full of all of his co-workers, relatives and friends and confess everything. He was sick of the lies and the pain he'd caused me. He was sick of the deceit. He was sick of being less than an upright, honest man. He was willing to do whatever it took to put that slimy, adultering time behind him and be the man I deserved. Gosh. I sure do love my husband.  This is what I want too. A man!
What would you do if you were not afraid?
"Fear is the little death. Fear is the mind-killer" Frank Herbert.
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This is what I want too. A man! I'm gonna give him a big, eyeball-popping squeeze as soon as he gets home from work. Just because. 
D-Day 2-10-2009
Fully Recovered and Better Than Ever!
Thank you Marriage Builders!
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Me too! I think you've started some kind of hugging craze.
A smooth sea never made a skilled mariner.
~ English proverb Neak's Story
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Kor, I noticed that there was a lot of advice being given to you and you just kept harping about someone answering questions 2 and 3. Those questions weren't even for YOU, they were for your WH. You can't protect him from the consequences that he will face. He must face those on his own. You do him a disservice. You a disservice, and most importantly your marriage will SUFFER.
Focus on killing this affair however you need to, including exposure. find OWH. Get them exposed at the workplace. YOU tell your children, his family, your family, mutual friends. Get it out there.
BW(Me)aka Scotty:37 DSx2: 10,12 DDAY2(PA)Nov27/09 Plan B Dec18/09 Personal R in works Scotty's THING  Newly Betrayed click herePraying for walls and doors. Thanx MM “Surviving is important. Thriving is elegant.” ? Maya Angelou PROGRESS NOT PERFECTION THANK YOU
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Scotland, I heard everyone's advice. I know what needs to be done.
I'm thankful to hear what a recovering WH should sound like.
I'm glad a few good husbands got an extra hug!!
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Scotland, I heard everyone's advice. I know what needs to be done.
I'm thankful to hear what a recovering WH should sound like.
I'm glad a few good husbands got an extra hug!! My H thought that was just fine. Now, get to work, girl. You know what you need to do. 
D-Day 2-10-2009
Fully Recovered and Better Than Ever!
Thank you Marriage Builders!
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Yes I do.
Last night we had a conversation where he told me that most of the apology and stuff he said that made me change my mind about kicking him out was just to get me to let him stay since he had no place to go.
Back to square one. Now to do it right. Need those muscles!
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