Yes. I am still here. I almost did something stupid to myself last year but I am OK now. I found an awesome job with higher pay and no travel in my same hometown. I am home every night now. Me and my kids are happy but she still says she is not sure about us. She told me she is happy that I no longer check on her phone usage like I am a "stalker". She admitted to "flirting" and doing "cyber stuff" with different guys on line even now. The guy from GA supposedly dropped her cold.. She said I am boring. I am confused with what I need to do. I have a feeling she is still talking to OM or perhaps another dude. She is still there pretending to be wife and mother. I still have not added her back to my bank checking account. She is like a promiscuous college roommate, but the mother of my children. This is so messed up since we are all still living together as a family.

Is she not committed to recovery? If not, I would go into plan B

I recommended this site, our church pastor, and private counselors. I still have her under my my health insurance so its all covered at little or no cost. The problem is she wont go..

She said she cannot answer my questions about recovery.

She is still there pretending to be wife and mother....She is like a promiscuous college roommate, but the mother of my children. This is so messed up since we are all still living together as a family.

(Philosophical aside : Well, yet another modern female buys into the "it takes a village" nonsense so fully that she abandons any pretext of attending to her primary biological imperative - seeing to the support of her progeny, even at the cost of "enduring" a lifestyle that imposes discipline and rigor when "adventure" and "excitement" seem more attractive! Thank you, Big Brother!)

So, IAD, after a year (a YEAR!) of this nonsense, what have we learned? Well, we've learned that WW will be content being "married" (See my ring? See my kids?) without being in a "marriage" as long as she has the ability to audition your eventual replacement cyber-erotically. We have also learned that your diffident approach to demanding respect and decent behavior stands no chance of surviving her displeasure. (Note to self: Start a study listing the differences between a "stalker" and a righteously active husband.)

So having determined that you have no intent on enforcing moral action by WW, and seeing no reason why she sould give up her serial infidelities, what do YOU want/plan to do?

Your choices are:

1) Start fighting, effectively and ruthlessly. Sorry, don't see this happening.
2) Lawyer up, dissolve sham of a marriage.
3) Endure the current situation

Iamdown2010 I just wanted to post and say that your story really got to me and that it made me realize that if someone who has gone through as much as you can still be with your wife and still be trying them perhaps I moved to fast and really should give it another shot my wife and I have been attempting reconciliation for a week now I won't bore you with the details but I think it might work out I'm only posting here to say thank you your story really Showed me how to put pride aside in the name of family you are a brave man and you deserve a lot better than what you're getting from your wife whatever decision you decide to make divorce reconciliation I wish you the best And i just wanted to say good luck.