LOL.

If I ever get down, I'll let ya know. And I'll reciprocate.

Wow SC. That is going to be some trip. Sounds adventerous and for me, probably would be calming. Do check in with us please while you're gone.

Yep,

Pretty excited about getting started,I've got 2 days to get my act together. Tons left to do I've got a list going and seem to be running out of time.


I went to my home church that I grew up in today, they were having a 100 year celebration.
I was part of a very active youth group back in the 70's and they had a meet a greet for us.

I got to see tons of old friends that I hadn't seen in over 30 years, it was a real flash back. What struck me most was the spirit in that church, I was instantly home again, such a contrast from the environment I have been living in for the past 4 years with the WW.

Little up date,

Nothing on the D front, may have depositions in July, August hopefully for sure,

I'm in Missoula Mt on my TransAmerica bike ride with DS23 and his college roommate. It's going great was in snow today on the Lolo Pass.

800 miles in on the 3800 total and not tired if it yet.

Very cool SC. Very cool. Thanks for the update.

I spent the past two full weekends learning how to sail on my own. Great thing to do to forget about my world being turned upside down, if even for a day.

I hope your trip is fun, challenging, healing, and safe.

Take care, and keep us updated.

Yep,
Have to agree, not sure how healthy it is but is sure seems to be working for me. Can't say I go all day not thinking about it but I am getting extended periods of blissful relief. In Twin Bridges MT.
Should make it into Yellowstone in a few more days.

SC

Your not still biking are you?

Just wonder whats up? Haven't seen anything from you in a while.

Hope all is well.

nESRE

He's still biking. Lots of cool pictures. I think it's okay to post the website, because I got it from the thread here.

http://www.crazyguyonabike.com/doc/?o=RrzKj&doc_id=8264&v=3O

Thanks Kirby

I must have missed this.

Gonna take some time and look it over.

nESRE

Kirby, I was wondering how he was doing, thanks, I missed that link too! I was reading, and have to say....so far? the best part?

BUSTED!!

That was hilarious! Will have to keep reading to see more! Sounds like one heck of a trip!

Well the vacation is over for now. Made it to Saint Louis. Rode a little over 3000 miles on my bike. It's been a wonderful trip so far. I have to say that I know I go for longer and longer stretches of time without thinking of the WW or the OM or the D, and that is a great place to be. I think I've had hole days of not thinking of my WW at all, which is kind of amazing. Most of the days it was just a passing thought, but at other times I would brood over it for hours as I rode along.

That didn't happen often, thankfully and the real reason for the trip in the first place seems to be what has happened, which was a chance to get a new prospective on my life and not be consumed with the disaster that my M and my life had become. I know I'll be able to move on and really look forward to it.

I'm back at work, off on a good trip and won't be home for awhile. Later I'm going to try to add up the days I actually spent at home over the last year. I think it will be a good number.

Nothing new on the D front, suppose to have depositions later this month but I know it will fall thru and move to August at best. I do need to do a better job of pressing my lawyer to make that stuff happen.

Sounds like an awesome time, SC. I know what you mean about the thinking on a long ride. I have the same situation on long runs. Thoughts come, and I either have to shake them off, or deal with them. I'm getting better at doing both.

Your ride really resonates with me. I've had some (very unrealistic) ideas of buying a small RV after I sell my house, cash out my retirement savings, and just hitting the road with no particular destination in mind. Kind of like an old Easy Rider, except without the drugs and long hair.

Maybe some day. Right now, it's time to deal with the things at hand. As funny as this may sound, not having worked for 16 months, I am looking forward to taking my first real vacation once I land a regular job!

Well it time for a update such as it is

The WW says she gave everything ask for months ago to her lawyer, my lawyer still has not received half of it and finally filed a motion with the court to force the documents. If we do not get a response in 30 days we get to push our way into court, not quite sure what that means except it should play in my favor. I have no doubt that they will respond by the deadline.

Still in the house with the WW

Still getting along and I try not to think to much when I'm home

The Bike ride continues and I have ridden from St Louis to my farm in Tenn, got in Saturday, it took a 7 days, that brings the total miles to over 3600 so far, I have a work trip starting the Sept 1, when I get back from that I'll be riding to the Atlantic Ocean to finish the ride. That ought to keep me out the house thru mid October. Then reality should be setting in. I would hope that deposition would be happening by then

Emotionally, I feel ok most of the time, I know it will be ruff when we finally start to clean up the house to sale it, but till then I'll keep my head in the sand.

SC, it's time for a

It's time to stop "getting along." Of course you get along right now. She has a roommate who pays for everything and puts NO expectations on her. She can run around doing whatever she wants and having sex with whoever she wants. She gets to go on bike trips you with and the kids and all those hot young guys. She gets to pretend that she is happily married. She probably tells people that y'all have an "open" marriage.

She is not cooperating with the divorce because she's having a grand old time being a married single woman. I'm glad your attorney is finally forcing the issue.

I know you're probably not there often, but you need to get out of that house. You will not even begin to recover until you have physically separated from your WW.

Yep Yep Yep

I would like to think that I'm in a better place than I was a year ago. A year ago I was still trying to get the mediation set up. Kirby, I have to agree with you that I need to get out of here and get this D over with.

I had a meeting with my lawyer today, and believe it or not some progress is being made. He filed a motion to force the discovery and to set a trial date. I spoke with the bless her heart STBX WW before I went to see the lawyer this morning and she said she had spoke with her lawyer and everything was fine on on their side......... mean time my lawyer tells me he sill has not heard a peep from the dark side.

On the 15th at 9am we have a hearing before the judge to set the trail date. So something is going to brake loose. My lawyer is convinced that in the next 48 hours that the dark side will start talking before the hearing, regardless I should have a court date by the end of this week.

Things have been so painfully slow that I'll believe it when I see it. When I'm at work I'll have an event happen while we're trying to get pushed off the gate. Looking at the issue I can see the solution and see that it should be resolved in minutes if handled right. Then you can just see it spiraling out of control and be helpless to fix it. So there you sit as sometimes hours slip by. Then finally by some miracle the pieces fall in place and suddenly your on your way. It is such a feeling of freedom to finally escape the trap you have been snared in. Then like being in light speed your on your way.

I have a feeling that this has the potential to be that way.
When we get that trail date it should force events to happen at a accelerated pace, and compared to the grind I've been enduring it should seem like light speed.

My lawyer assures me that I don't need to be in court Thursday, that it's just a scheduling matter and I'm not expected to be there.

So it's back on the bike for me, My DS and I had made it to the house in Tennessee last month, over 3500 miles so far. I now have the time off to finish the ride to the Atlantic. We plan to ride out of town on Wednesday morning with 2 other college kids in tow that are friends of DS. Should make it to the coast in about 2 weeks. I expect the college boys to give up at that point, I'm planning to ride for another week up the coast to Kitty Hawk

At that point reality will set in because I haven't made plans to escape from the house after that yet. I really need to spend some time at home to start throwing out my junk and getting myself ready to sale the farm.

Ok, here's the tidbit I trying not to read to much into.

While I was gone on this last trip the Bless her wayward heart STBX cleaned our master bath. ( I'm sleeping in the master WW has moved to the guest room) We for years had some pictures on the mirror of us together I have 3 on my side she had 2 on hers. About the time the A's started the pictures on her side "fell" down, she never made an effort to put them back up. I never took down the ones on my side.

She did an excellent job cleaning the bath it looked great, and to my surprise the pictures are back up...... What's up with that !!!!!

She has made no attempt to reconcile and I really don't expect her to, and YES I know exactly what my response will be so you can relax.

I'm glad you'll be out of there again for awhile. I'm glad you're getting a trial date. And, yes, you're right, once you're finally divorced you will feel an immense sense of freedom.

Be careful on your bike trip, and I hope your lawyer can finally get things moving.

I just finished reading all your posts and i am a Bit confused Do your daughters know that your wife had a PA with the other man and are still friends with Him and if that's the case How has that affected your relationship with them and how do they justify Their friendship with him

Mitts,

Yes my DD's were told of the A right away, they were upset, I assumed they would naturally sever their relationship with the POSOM but found out later that they had not.

I did confront the DD's over this and it has strained our relationship. They are always quick to tell me that they love me when we talk, I haven't confronted them about their continued contact with the POSOM lately,

I called them both right after I filed and told them that their continued relationship with the POSOM was a contributing factor in their parents D. That it emboldened their mother to continue her relationship with the POSOM

So like any affair does it leaves a wake of destruction that moves thru multiple lives, damage that we can see and some that is covered. My relationship with my DD's will always be affected by what they have done. Their reasoning on why they continue to talk to this guy is beyond my comprehension. If I pause to think about what they have done by this it upsets me greatly, not only for me but for them as well, I worry that their moral compasses are so askew that they make fundamentally poor decisions in their lives and not know it.

SC! How are you? How 'bout an update?

I walked in the door yesterday afternoon 4761.9 miles give or take a few tenths. I'll have the rest of the journal done over the next few days.

As for the D front we have depositions scheduled FINALLY on the 15 Nov and trail date of 9 Jan 12 (that's just a couple of months shy of 2 years since I filed) But finally feel some progress is being made.
I'll be busying myself prepping for the depositions and actually cleaning house of all my junk so I'm ready as I can be to pack up when the time comes next spring ( that's when I anticipate selling the farm)

Should be an interesting couple of months


The bike trip ????? Epic !!!!

Good to here from you Kirby