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I have not posted here since the year of my D-Day which was April 2008, my last post was Dec 2008. WOW, I read my old posts and just sat an wept for myself, what a dark, sad place I was in. I cant believe I MADE IT!!! I SURVIVED!! I DID IT, AND IM SO SO PROUD OF MYSELF!!
My D-Day was April 2008, he continued to work with OW, the people on THIS forum WARNED me over and over, the marriage would NEVER work if he didnt leave that job. I didnt believe them. But they were RIGHT!! My husband continued to work with her 14 months after D-Day. I lived in torture every single day he went to work. My husband was not willing to give up his 6 figure salary. My husband was never willing to accept the consequences for what he did. My husband never gave me the time I needed to heal, he still demanded sex. When we moved to another state, we got in an arguement and he threw me against a wall and tried to choke me. We lived in that state a total of two weeks. Me and my son moved back to our hometown the next day and I filed for divorce. Is life easy now? NO, its hard. I am raising my son alone and it is difficult financially. My husband meet a woman in the new state and married her two months later. He calls now crying to come on on a regular basis. Im just so proud of myself. I starting over at age 45 and have learned more in the past 3 years than I have in my whole life. I know now what I did wrong in marriage and what I did right. I no longer tolerate the behavior of my husband and never will again!!
BS (ME) Fabulous 40's
D-Day March 2008
Co-Worker Affair lasted 13 Months
Divorce Final June 2010
1 child - teenager
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DeltaDawn, I am so sorry it turned out this way, but so glad that you got out! Bravo to you.
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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I have not posted here since the year of my D-Day which was April 2008, my last post was Dec 2008. WOW, I read my old posts and just sat an wept for myself, what a dark, sad place I was in. I cant believe I MADE IT!!! I SURVIVED!! I DID IT, AND IM SO SO PROUD OF MYSELF!!
My D-Day was April 2008, he continued to work with OW, the people on THIS forum WARNED me over and over, the marriage would NEVER work if he didnt leave that job. I didnt believe them. But they were RIGHT!! My husband continued to work with her 14 months after D-Day. I lived in torture every single day he went to work. My husband was not willing to give up his 6 figure salary. My husband was never willing to accept the consequences for what he did. My husband never gave me the time I needed to heal, he still demanded sex. When we moved to another state, we got in an arguement and he threw me against a wall and tried to choke me. We lived in that state a total of two weeks. Me and my son moved back to our hometown the next day and I filed for divorce. Is life easy now? NO, its hard. I am raising my son alone and it is difficult financially. My husband meet a woman in the new state and married her two months later. He calls now crying to come on on a regular basis. Im just so proud of myself. I starting over at age 45 and have learned more in the past 3 years than I have in my whole life. I know now what I did wrong in marriage and what I did right. I no longer tolerate the behavior of my husband and never will again!! Awesome update. Thanks for sharing.
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Delta~ I needed to hear this. Thanks so much for sharing. 
Me: BS age 35 POS-eX-the SORRIEST, CRUELEST, LOWLY WAYWARD SCUMBAG out there Married 14.5 years, together almost 16 DDay: 7-5-09 OC born: 7-23-09 no COM: tried 6 years  D filed 5/05/2011 D final 11/10/11 I was gaslighted for 2 years. "You were not built for a safe story. Take risks and feel what it is like to actually be brave. It's worth it." Carlos Whittaker
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Grats Delta, May your life be blessed with more than you could imagine.
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Delta, You can be proud of yourself. I'm glad you didn't tolerate his behavior. Besides, it's teaching your son that a man can't treat a woman the way his dad did and get away with it...there's consequences.
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