So she has deceided that she cant be married anymore. She also puts 100% of the blame on our current situation, on my affair3.5-4 yrs ago. She takes no responsibility for the pa with the OW that she has been having for the last 3 months. vent

My question, the two attorneys and my WW and I are having our first meeting next monday..

what do i expect through this whole thing??? Ok maybe that was too broad of a question.

We live in a no fault state, does that mean it should be fairly simple?? or am I just going to a miserable ****, and should I expect the fight of my life

No Clue

Post this to your main thread, ttfg! it is about the same situation - the affair - and you will get more attention on the affair forum.

thanks, will do

Trying,

Once YOU make the decision that divorce is the only way, then you need to totally change your mindset.

You could not control your WW getting into and perpetuating the affair, you could not control any potential recovery without her help.

But...., you damn sure can and better take control and drive the D train.

I hope by next Monday that you mean more than a week from now, because you need that much time. If you go into this meeting as unprepared as you claim to be, then you are going to get left with one day a week visitation, every other weekend, and paying a boatload in child support and alimony.

Do not count on her handing over the house and majority custody in this meeting. She will reconsider and her lawyer is advising her to do so.

You need to learn your state's divorce laws and decide what YOU want out of it. Then envision three scenarios; 1) what you would love to get out of the split, 2) what you would accept, and 3) what you fight to the end about.

Do not agree to anything in this meeting that is not well thought out and favorable to you.

Most importantly, divorce is NOT Marriage Builders any more! Divorce needs to be a non-emotional business deal. In this deal you are not looking out for the marriage, you are looking out for Tryingtofeelgood and most importantly the children. You need to come out of this with the most time possible and best living situation with the kids, and as much assets and paycheck as you can keep in your pocket.