Thank you, Reading. I'll be doing that today.

Just hit another dead end!! Someone from the CLA called me back in response to the email I wrote. (That was quick.) The woman said they couldn't answer me because it would be conflict of interest (since they represent churches and Christian schools...and I'm not a part of this particular church or school)!! I guess I could always write back and pretend I'm the pastor! Haha...

So it's been 3 weeks since exposure. I met with her employer (pastor and daycare director) like I mentioned before. And STILL nothing has been done. Neither my wife nor the OW have been confronted. They're still living in fantasy land with no consequences. I called up the OW's husband and told him everything. He said he suspected it all along and that he'd talk to his wife. Not sure if that ever happened. I haven't seen a change in anyone's behavior. A lot of my wife's friends are aware. They offer me sympathy and help with the kids, but no one has the guts to call her out!

The divorce papers were sent to the courthouse yesterday, so she should be getting served in a couple weeks. I just can't believe that everyone just sits back and watches this family disintegrate!! They just watch her walk further into this pit without saying a word. I feel completely let down. For now, I'll focus on the custody issue. That hearing is still 6 weeks away though. Until then, I'll have to let my kids stay a few days a week at that disgusting house where all this takes place. Not a good feeling.

Is there anything else I can do? Any suggestions? Or do I just sit here and twiddle my thumbs?!

Exposure is powerful even if no one does anything. The wayward was keeping it secret/hush hush by choice and it is no longer under their control. The romantic, secret aspect is gone.
It IS frustrating for the betrayed when no one seems to stand for the marriage.
You can not control others though. They make their own choices in life.

Focus on the custody and give the kids the very loveliest home while they are with you. Focus on being the most loving and kind father.

Maybe others have more ideas.

Addition by subtraction?

It may seem 'nothings happened', but you cast light on an affair, exposed the secret fantasy, which will lead to its demise, if not immediately, than soon.

This in and of itself is a good thing.

Now focus on being dad of the year, be a hero for your family.