Ps I don't see anything weird on the phone

It says web history text voice and location...

But if he makes an email in an app...also I can't tell
If I get to see actual text from text msgs or just history

confused, you should be able to see exactly what the texts say and the content of any emails sent or received.

I wanted to pop in and say that my FWH went from a lukewarm response to recovery and full transparency to very warm and receptive in a couple of weeks. So it may possibly take a little while for the last shreds of fog to completely dissipate.

He thought I would mess up his email in some way and felt like he was being spied on at first.

So keep checking on all communications but be aware that his fully remorseful self may take a little while to appear as he begins to truly take in what he has done to you and your family, and really, also to himself.

And really great courageous work from you...Wow...

You are still legal wife?

Then you don't have to give back car.

No, Road - this was discussed when she thought he would be quitting his job. Her car is a company car.

Yes what marital says-it's linked to his job. If he wasn't quitting he said he'd let me keep it. He said we could put in a divorce that I get to still use his benefits. He was very much sorry he wasn't deciding on me at first and wasn't caring about what I'd take. I realize that could change but yea.

51-thank you. He seems less irritated...he wants to constantly be near me and kind of tiptoes. He keeps asking me if I'm ok. I smile, tell him I love him, and just that I'm a little sad but I'll be ok. My stomachs still really sick. Everytime I manage to eat I get sick and must be in the restroom for a while (sorry tmi) I'm just nervous. This happened dday1 also but worse. I can't hide my feelings entirely but I'm not being mean...I just still feel a little down

How do you get over thinking about him holding her? Having sex w her? Going to her? It's hard.

Anyway I'll keep you posted on the phone spyware...he hasn't used it much since I installed (we went to dinner w friends , watched a movie on the couch, went to bed). He took his pillow to go on the couch and I asked why. He said I didn't ask him to come in the room..I told him he's met my conditions and I have proof the job thing is in process (his boss copied his work emails to his personal email which I'm watching) so he can be home for everything that means, but no slipups.

Has anyone else used blaster mobile? Bc the location is way wrong...it says he was at some random address 3 miles away all night..but he was in bed w me

That is odd. I have used it before and it was very exact, down to the exact HOUSE address. Sometimes it would vary by 100' or so, but not more than that. Are you certain?

One of her friends sent me a long email saying I'm just as low as she is sending that fb message and trying to ruin her life..and that I should've left him the first time so the Shame is on me

Did he sleep with you? Is he committed to the recovery of your marriage?

Whew, what a lack of support and understanding when someone puts telling the truth and asking for help with ending an affair in the same category as adultery. There will always be those who take that stance; others will be noncommittal and sit on the fence. Then there will be those select few who really get what you're trying to do and will help. Try not to pay attention to the dissenters. Who knows what they are thinking anyway?

Yea instead of our address it says one a ways away...and im positive he was here...we watched a movie, went to bed. I'm not sleeping well so I was up and down, he never left. Plus our front door us super loud bc it gets stuck

In bed with you AND at a house 3 miles away at the same time? He must have a split personality

I do not know how the program pinpoints the location. There are 2 possibilities: GPS, which is give or take a few metres exact, or it uses the locations of the cell phone transmission pole locations, which is somewhat less exact and if you live in a rural area, it could be that there are deviations.

If this happens more often (you can look what it says while he was with you) maybe you should contact the flexispy company?

You are doing great GREAT, by the way.

God Bless,
Happyheart

Be very careful about the benefits. I used to work in a benefits department for a large company. If a couple was divorced, the spouse who was not working for the company was dropped as soon as the change in marital status was entered in the system. The only way the spouse could keep the coverage was to pay the higher cost for COBRA, and that was for a limited period of time. Best to call the HR department yourself and find out. Each company has its own rules.

You don't need the approval of brainless halfwits. Just ignore it!

Yea ill deal w benefits if it comes to that. I can get them at my work and just make him keep the kids on his.

Melody-he did come to bed I guess he was waiting for me to ask. As for your 2nd q "is he committed to recovery of marriage" how do I know? Besides if he follows my list and doesnt mess up?

Yea Mel, it was just hurtful. She replied and asked how I'd feel if she told all my friends how sexually unsatisfied my husband mustve been and how embarrassing that I allowed this twice.I replied and told her go ahead, because they all already know and the shame isn't on me.

You can't reason with stupid women, so don't even try. Some people are just not bright. It is not your fault she is a stupid woman so don't let it bother you.

Yup in farm country thats what happens ussually. It depends if the phone accually has a GPS installed, and its turned on, or uses the triangulation version of cell phone tower location. If true GPS, (using sattelitees), it would need a view of the sky.

I wouldn't worry about the GPS funtion, just use the other features and they can be counted on.