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Of course I say something ML. I am a true advocate for MB, DrH and especially PB.
BW(Me)aka Scotty:37 DSx2: 10,12 DDAY2(PA)Nov27/09 Plan B Dec18/09 Personal R in works Scotty's THING  Newly Betrayed click herePraying for walls and doors. Thanx MM “Surviving is important. Thriving is elegant.” ? Maya Angelou PROGRESS NOT PERFECTION THANK YOU
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May I join the Monday Night Rant Club? Why would a poster go to all the trouble to set up an account here in order to post about their situation, and then not tell us everything we need to know in order to help them? What the heck's the point?? Why would a BH drop in occasionally over a period of MONTHS, talking about everything regarding their marriage EXCEPT the fact that they discovered that their spouse was having an affair?? 
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May I join the Monday Night Rant Club? Sure, but it's TUESDAY. tehehe
BW(Me)aka Scotty:37 DSx2: 10,12 DDAY2(PA)Nov27/09 Plan B Dec18/09 Personal R in works Scotty's THING Newly Betrayed click herePraying for walls and doors. Thanx MM “Surviving is important. Thriving is elegant.” ? Maya Angelou PROGRESS NOT PERFECTION THANK YOU
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Sure, but it's TUESDAY. tehehe LOL! I thought this week was really crawling! Whew! 
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Of course I say something ML. I am a true advocate for MB, DrH and especially PB. i know you are, friend. 
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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Sure, but it's TUESDAY. tehehe LOL! I thought this week was really crawling! Whew! Funny thing is, I had to actually THINK about it. I have the whole week off of work(unfortunately), and I can't remember what day of the week it is. Since I box on Mon, Tues, Wed, and Fri, I felt too sore for it to be only MONDAY. That's why I was worried. At least it doesn't only happen to ME. 
BW(Me)aka Scotty:37 DSx2: 10,12 DDAY2(PA)Nov27/09 Plan B Dec18/09 Personal R in works Scotty's THING Newly Betrayed click herePraying for walls and doors. Thanx MM “Surviving is important. Thriving is elegant.” ? Maya Angelou PROGRESS NOT PERFECTION THANK YOU
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Of course I say something ML. I am a true advocate for MB, DrH and especially PB. i know you are, friend. Thank You. and thank you for also being a great advocate for MB and all of the help you give. We appreciate you. 
BW(Me)aka Scotty:37 DSx2: 10,12 DDAY2(PA)Nov27/09 Plan B Dec18/09 Personal R in works Scotty's THING Newly Betrayed click herePraying for walls and doors. Thanx MM “Surviving is important. Thriving is elegant.” ? Maya Angelou PROGRESS NOT PERFECTION THANK YOU
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Thank you for that. The feeling is very mutual.
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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Ummm, we're starting to sound like those chipmunks, "No no, I insist." "Oh Thank you so very much." Tehehehe BTW, you're welcome.
Now back to our regularly scheduled RANTS. RANT ON.
BW(Me)aka Scotty:37 DSx2: 10,12 DDAY2(PA)Nov27/09 Plan B Dec18/09 Personal R in works Scotty's THING Newly Betrayed click herePraying for walls and doors. Thanx MM “Surviving is important. Thriving is elegant.” ? Maya Angelou PROGRESS NOT PERFECTION THANK YOU
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There is no such thing as Plan B light. You either are or you AREN'T. Like being a little bit pregnant? Or a little bit married? Or sorta committed?
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I know I, and some other Plan Bers, have felt guilty about looking at an email, or a FB page, or out a window, Hmmm, who does this refer to?  ... and then to read that someone else has CONTINUED contact with the WS, and sometimes are even encouraged to "modify" Plan B. ARGHHHHHHH. And those that have encouraged contact are further confusing a BS when entering Plan B can be difficult enough. Most of us entering Plan B still have quite a lot of fog left ourselves. I am so grateful I did not have anyone suggesting contact in the early days of Plan B. No way would this have done me any favours. I do remember reading other's threads that were having some contact and being confused and questioning if I should do this too. Luckily I had some self-awareness and commitment to the plans. And some task-masters on my case! 
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WXH (Gollum) is corrupted by his A, and now forever bound to it.
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I agree Scotty. You're either all in or out in Plan B. I used to think you could peek out of Plan B to take the temperature of the WS or that it was okay to break contact in an extreme emergency. It's not. Not because of how it effects the WS but because of how it effects the Plan B'er. Plan B should be thought of as "Pitch Black" with no shades of gray allowed. There is a purpose to Plan B and it cannot and should not be altered EVER.
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WSs who whine and complain about exposure.
One year becomes two, two years becomes five, five becomes ten and before you know it, you've wasted your whole life on a problem you can't solve. That's one way to spend your life. -rwinger
I will not spend my life this way.
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WSs who whine and complain about exposure.
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Yes, but ..............  I could have died !
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I'm sick of Waywards. Period.
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ME TOO!!! Actually I think the correct grammar is "I, also!!!!"
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Yes, but .............. I could have died ! You all are just so darned mean to those poor waywards. After all, they were just sitting there, minding their own business and doing good works, when THE DEVIL swooped in and dragged them into their AP's clutches! I mean, really now... ![[Linked Image from getsmileyface.com]](http://www.getsmileyface.com/sm/evil/teu42.gif)
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*sigh*
Now I feel guilty for referring to a wayward as a dumba*s on a recent post. I didn't know they couldn't help it!!
Rant: When you suspect a BS's thread has been hijacked by his wayward but don't know for sure.
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*sigh*
Now I feel guilty for referring to a wayward as a dumba*s on a recent post. I didn't know they couldn't help it!!
Rant: When you suspect a BS's thread has been hijacked by his wayward but don't know for sure. You mean the one where he said she figured it out? I believe that post was made by Mr. A.
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