My wife presented me with a post-nup agreement yesterday. In it, she would leave the marriage with nothing, except her clothes, car and a few pieces of heirloom furniture that her Grandmother gave her. Our daughter would be in my custody, all of our money and stocks would be mine, also the house, vacation cottage, and pretty much everything else. She had already signed off on it and asked me to read it and take it to our lawyer and sign it. I asked her why she had it drawn up, and she said, to prove her commitment to our marriage. She said that I am her whole world, and wanted a tangible way of proving it. How about that?

Is she reading here? lol... That's something! Me? I'd tuck it away someplace safe and just hang onto it.

Wow MM! I am impressed. I have thought about a post-nup should WH ever wake up but thought no way would someone ever agree to this. And your wife has actually suggested it herself... Just goes to show what lengths a truly remorseful WS will go to... Actually, make that FWS. Cause thinking likes this shows commitment that waywards just don't have.

Great to hear you are on the road to recovery. Keep it up!

Sign, file, and thank her.

She put her money where her mouth is.

Wowwww mirror!

She's a keeper!!!

I had no idea. She and my lawyer ( female cousin) had worked on it, and she gave it to me at breakfast. She simply said, "I would like you to read this, sweetheart". After I did, I gave her an hour of loving , that left her a quivering jelly. LOL. We both had to re-shower. I will sign it, because that is what she wants, and I think it will help her with her guilt issues. I'm pretty happy about it.

You were smart to hold on to that woman.......
You two sound so happy now............you are truly one of the lucky ones.....

It sounds good. If you leave her for any reason.....would it still stand?

Yes, If the marriage ends for any reason, I will get practically everything. What is amazing, is how happy it made her, to do it. I do know that I never realized how much I missed just talking to her and being together. Since the A, we have had infinitely better sex, and much more closeness, than the whole year and a half I worked so much. We do little things to show our love. I picked her up from work the other day, and took her to her favorite spa for the complete treatment, and had the masseuse let me help her. The next day, when I got to work, I opened my case and there was a new thong and bra and a note from her saying that she was in such a hurry that morning that she forgot to put on her underwear, and would I bring them over and put them on her. I nearly wrecked, getting to her workplace in record time.

Great news MM

Take it to a VERY good family/marriage/divorce attorney, someone that has a LOT of experience with Pre-Nup Agreements. Have it reviewed, revised and filed with the courts. There is specific language that needs to be in it depending on the state you live in.

PLEASE, DO NOT TUCK IT AWAY! It is a vital part of your spouse's recovery and will be something that helps you keep your own focus in the future, for if/when you have some rough days in the years ahead.

HPB, My lawyer has already done so, at her firm, and it's air-tight. I don't really care except as a tool for my wife's recovery from her crushing guilt, and self-image issues.

I'm glad to hear that!

There will come a time that it will make a difference for you as well!

It's still very good news....

I am continually amazed by Mrs MMs terrific work on recovery. To think of how far she has come in such a short space of time. Flabbergasting.

You know why, don't you?


This is a demonstration; all the way in, or all the way out.

I think its great. It seals in your minds what her motivations are and should help in both your healing. Good luck

Congrats!

I know, Indiegirl, sometimes it amazes me. Every day she actually SEARCHES for ways to show how much she loves me and wants our marriage to recover. Some are very intimate. She had my intials tattooed on her derriere, for example, then informed me that she had a woman artist do it, so I wouldn't think another man had seen her bottom. I do get a little frustrated, because she tries too much to anticipate my wishes, and I have to work hard to make sure she does what she wants to do, and not because I want her to do it. POJA has been immensely helpful with this. WE talk constantly about LB's and that her EN' s are just as important as mine. She says that our marriage is getting better than she ever imagined, and that if she could just get rid of her guilt, she would be the happiest woman alive. But every time she remembers what she did, she feels physically ill and filled with shame.

Ive heard a few waywards address that in a positive light, i.e. their conscience is their friend.

Would she consider posting here to get a handle on that one? I dont know if youre counseling with the harleys or not....

I think she could maybe help a few of the waywards on here, that might make her feel she is using a bad experience to good ends.

She may not feel like that for a while though, I get the impression all her enregies are zeroed on you!

I did ask her if she wanted to post, and she did once, using my username, but she isn't interested just yet. You see, everything about this site acts as a trigger for her, in a bad way. She says that maybe , in the future , she will not feel so ashamed, and would like to help other FW's, but not now.

well, she shouldn't feel ashamed anymore, she has stood up to the plate, I am sure she could help others when she is ready..........