I wasn't even aware of the EP's at the time. This site was helping her get to me. It wasn't the only thing that made me turn around. So there were no EP's even put in place on me. I did that on my own as a way to show her that I truely repented of my sin and that she could trust me. Up until the other day, when this all came to light, she had every password and could check everthing I did on the computer. I even offered to buy monitoring software so she could be alerted to any issue that could come up. So I didn't even think to require the same from her or that I had any right to. My wife has always demanded and expressed her independence of me. Stating that I have no right to place any expectations on her, no right to ask her to do anything she doesn't want to do... including any housework, have a job, or even teach the kids when they were homeschooled. So the idea of putting any controls on her would bring immediate offense and a big fight.

I was only expressing the decision I made and why. I was not saying that I was not responsible and accountable for my own decision. The decision was flawed, I gave up. That is on me, not her. And had my wife not stepped in at that point, we wouldn't be married today... it's that simple. Again, as flawed as our marrigae was at the time, I should not have had an affair. I should have addressed the problems at hand and just lived with it if I couldn't get her agreement.

History re-write is not only for the WS.

Have you read through that thread I posted about in my first post?

And I will try, yet again, WHAT BOOKS BY DrH HAVE YOU READ?

I remember reading one years ago, but I don't remember what it was.

I will re-read the thread you gave me. I glanced over it, but my wife walked into the room and I had to get off.

I approached my wife yesterday when Isaw that she blocked me from her Facebook feed. She (of course) denies everything. She stated that she inteded to block her sister by blocking family. They are actually kind of at war right now, but it's just too coincidental for me. They have been at war for months, so why now? She still refuses to give me access to her facebook or anything else. She also says that she needs to be friends with men because she can't relate to women, or at least she has a very difficult time relating to women. That is something I just don't get. Anyway, I need to get more proof before I go any further. She says it's all innocent, but it just seems to keep nagging me, like there is a self preservation warning going off.

Time to expose. She's going underground and doing it without hiding it.

CV

That's what I thought. I am working on getting information. I have already learned how to break her windows password if it comes to that. I want to see if I can mine the information first.

I see, I will get one on pay day, but I think this is an on-line affair. I am disabled and am home most of the time. She spends up to 16 hours a day on-line. I honestly believe the affar is emotional rather than physical at this point. My watch out is when we go to visit my dad. He lives in very close proximity to my wifes lover (at least one of them) and has expressed that she wants to meet him. I don't know if that means with or without me there. I don't think I am going to willingly let her go out alone when we go there... if I go there at all at this point.