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I am 44 Male-wife ia 39. 10 years married. 2 beautiful kids. 8/5
Her Family became her priority because they are dependent.
She felt neglect from me. I allowed her to please them first.
She works part time. I haven't exposed to her friends or the guys family.
My and her family know. She wants divorce?
I want to win her back but she thinks of him.
How can I do this?
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I am 44 Male-wife ia 39. 10 years married. 2 beautiful kids. 8/5
Her Family became her priority because they are dependent.
She felt neglect from me. I allowed her to please them first.
She works part time. I haven't exposed to her friends or the guys family.
My and her family know. She wants divorce?
I want to win her back but she thinks of him.
How can I do this? How long has she been cheating? Do you know the person? What type of affair is it (physical or emotional)? Do you have evidence? Sorry you're here. We can help though
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Is she having an affair? If so, what do you know about him? What is your evidence?
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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2 years she has known him. She gets caught all the time
From family and my friends Doing things with him. Everyone gets mad at her.
She is horribly addicted.
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2 years she has known him. She gets caught all the time
From family and my friends Doing things with him. Everyone gets mad at her.
She is horribly addicted. addicted to what? how has she been caught?
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Shopping. Eating at restaurants. Sitting on the bus together.
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What can I do or not do? What will she allow?
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What can I do or not do? What will she allow? Vase, is this guy married?
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No, he is a single guy 42 with a house, truck, jeT ski and no responsibility.
I took care of 8 people for 2 years on 1 income.
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No, he is a single guy 42 with a house, truck, jeT ski and no responsibility.
I took care of 8 people for 2 years on 1 income. Sounds like you are enabling. Make her take responsibility. She shouldn't have the time for an A with 8 people in the house. Tell her no contact or she's gone, and you need to expose this far and wide.
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I know I am enabling. I am going to go hard at plan A. I am creating time with her. 1. Study with her
2. Kids activities with her
3. We are doing a diet together
4. Going To church together
5. Trying to pray together at night like we use
To do. (prayed the rosery every night before her family moved in)Hopefully she would want to read "Draw Close" with me. Is that ok to do
She wants to get her faith back. The priest that Counciled her
Told her she was in sin.
6. I am sitting down with her everyday to talk to her about her day
And what she is thinking, feeling and what are her plans and desires are.
7. I am trying to make myself as attractive as I can again. Skinny, nicely dressed, well groomed all the time. I went into serious depression from this affair and her family moving in.
8. Shop with her. She loves to goshopping with me.
I NEED 15 HOURS A WEEK WITH HER AND PREVENT HER WITH THE OTHER GUY
*** I still feel I have enabled this affair from the start. I don't want to fight no
more (many arguments over this so called friend) "LOVE BUSTERS"
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And you are still enabling it. You don't have to fight over the affair. You cannot educate wayward. Do you know that there is also stick part in the plan A? 1-8 are carrot part activities only and will give her impression that you are rewarding her over her affair.
Me (FWH) 44
Mrs_Recon6mo (FWW) 42
Married 22 years
2 Children 20 and 22 years
Last D-Day for me: May 2009
Last D-Day for her: October 2008
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What do you mean? Please be specific.
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Me (FWH) 44
Mrs_Recon6mo (FWW) 42
Married 22 years
2 Children 20 and 22 years
Last D-Day for me: May 2009
Last D-Day for her: October 2008
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