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Sorry not sure where this belongs. But I have been separated from my stbx. Anyhow, my cat is just getting worse and worse about not getting enough attention. He would play with her whenever she wanted to, she got to sit on him (she cannot do that comfortably with me as I am quite petite), and she is acting up. I know, I know, she is a cat but she keeps waking me up at odd hours, biting me, I try to play with her and let her sit on me, but she still is annoyed me. How do I handle it? Will she learn to adjust to just one person in time?
FWW? no children D-day Sept 2010 Divorced requested by BH Jan 2011 Separated Sept 2011 OW discovery Oct 2011 Divorced 2012
No, this was supposed to be my cat when we got it. I feel like a child but it was the case it was mine to take care of when we talked about it. He does not want to deal with a pet. I do play with her, but I will not play rough with her when she wants to scratch or bite. (which is how she wants to play sometimes and I do not)
FWW? no children D-day Sept 2010 Divorced requested by BH Jan 2011 Separated Sept 2011 OW discovery Oct 2011 Divorced 2012
I do play with her, but I will not play rough with her when she wants to scratch or bite.
Well, then, MB practices would suggest that a serious discussion should be held with the obstreperous feline, under the controls of O & H, in which you should carefully and with compassion explain to Miss Kitty how hurt and insulted you feel when she violates the tacit understanding you believe you have with her as regards "claws in" vs "claws out".
Or, just load her up with catnip-laced toys until she passes out!
Lol thanks for the laughs. I will see how she does over the next few weeks and maybe talk to stbx if he can help out and take her if things do not improve.
She did end up waking up at 6am and playing with things on her own instead of waking me up.
FWW? no children D-day Sept 2010 Divorced requested by BH Jan 2011 Separated Sept 2011 OW discovery Oct 2011 Divorced 2012
She'll adjust to you, WW. If you want to keep her, do so.
The Bliss House Cat is crabby, pushy, and appears to burn about 15,000 calories an hour from the noises she makes (her weight belies that). She has also made it clear that It is All About Her.
She begs for food like a street person. Right after we feed her. She allows us to pet her for a brief time. Then she launches a full-on attack with back legs kicking, while she grabs our hapless wrist with her front legs. I have no idea why she does so, but it appears to make her happy.
I flick her nose when she's out of order. She's figured that out, so I don't have to deal with scratches anymore.
We've reached a point of detente. And I'd never give her up for anything.
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It really takes about 3 months for a cat to adjust.
I inherited 5 from my roommate who passed this summer, and they're just settling into their old personalities.
Me: 30 Him: 39 Together 5 years Married the very best man in the world 04/06/2013 after being common law for too long. I'm a lucky woman. 7 Cats - Viscount Ashley of Leftfield, Pawkie Petunia, The Timinator, Leo the Lionheart, Fruit Snack, Cloud, and Barret And our very lucky pony, Starbucks
Actually, you should work to satisfy her instinctive need to "hunt" and "slay" without exposing your unprotected paw as her prey!
Get yourself a laser pointer. Turn down the lights in a room where she is, and point the light on the floor As she attacks it (and she will) jerk it around he room! Twirl her in circles! Run it up the walls, across the ceiling, and down the other wall! Five minutes of this and she'll be sated.
(To be really devious, run the beam across the floor, and then seemingly "behind" something large like a chest, or piano, and switch it off. Miss Kitty will wait for it to come back out for a loooooong time!)
Thanks, I will get out the laser pointer, I forgot I had that. I used to play with her until she got bored and noticed that it came from my hand and decided to get that instead lol.
I will give her some time, I really do not want to give her away and I do not know of anyone who has that much free time to give her all the attention and playtime she wants.
Thanks again for all the help and what not:)
FWW? no children D-day Sept 2010 Divorced requested by BH Jan 2011 Separated Sept 2011 OW discovery Oct 2011 Divorced 2012
Open a shopping bag and lay it on the floor with the open end facing her. Get behind the bag and scratch the bottom of it on the outside. Try not to laugh when she lunges into the bag to attack the scratching sound.
How a smart animal like a cat be such a sucker for the old 'scratching the paper bag' trick is beyond me, but the Bliss cat falls for it every time. And I crack up at her every time.
Which, of course, may be why she attacks me...
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Last night one of the 'children' decided to pee in my purse.
I hope your cat adjusts better than my children have to the complete upheaval of our lives several times this year.
Does anyone want a cat fur collar? I'll have 6 for sale soon.
Me: 30 Him: 39 Together 5 years Married the very best man in the world 04/06/2013 after being common law for too long. I'm a lucky woman. 7 Cats - Viscount Ashley of Leftfield, Pawkie Petunia, The Timinator, Leo the Lionheart, Fruit Snack, Cloud, and Barret And our very lucky pony, Starbucks
Last night one of the 'children' decided to pee in my purse.
LOL!
I'm so frackin' happy that everyone finds humor in this! Except me.
Me: 30 Him: 39 Together 5 years Married the very best man in the world 04/06/2013 after being common law for too long. I'm a lucky woman. 7 Cats - Viscount Ashley of Leftfield, Pawkie Petunia, The Timinator, Leo the Lionheart, Fruit Snack, Cloud, and Barret And our very lucky pony, Starbucks
OH.MY.LORD! You people need to get a REAL PET!! A cat is not a pet, it is a VARMINT!!!
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OH.MY.LORD! You people need to get a REAL PET!! A cat is not a pet, it is a VARMINT!!!
Out cat is a pet, and a varmint, and her name is Pepsi.
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I don't believe cats have much patience for POJA when it comes to their play time. Or anything else, for that matter. 
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LOL!
A cat is not a pet, it is a VARMINT!!! 