More difficulties on the path
Although this is not directly linked to infidelity, I feel that a lot of difficulties originate from it.
In 2000 my husband got a job abroad which he still has. He comes home for a three-day weekend and has a few days off from time to time and a fairly long summer holiday.
In 2001 he started being distant, unfriendly, or sometimes depressed. I tried to ease and lighten the atmosphere when he was unfriendly and unpleasant, and to help him in the depressed moments but had no effect. I was concerned about the kids: our 3 children were teenagers then. Our son (the eldest) decided to leave school and study at home, our daughters became withdrawn, especially the youngest one.
In 2005 I discovered:
that my husband had been in a 3 and a half-year affair that had just ended,
that my youngest daughter was in a homosexual relationship,
that my other daughter had a boyfriend whose faith I am very concerned about.
I was absolutely devastated and had a long period of depression which I carefully try not to fall into again.
My current problem is that my husband absolutely wants to invite "his kids'partners" as he puts it for the Christmas period.
Although I have met my youngest daughter's current girlfriend (she had a girlfriend, then a boyfriend, and for the last 3 years a new girlfriend she lives with) and I do not want to have them together in front of my eyes as it causes me deep deep grief. The only way I cope is by trying not to think too much about it and by seeing my daughter by herself.
I really do not see any way out of it, so I offered not to be present around Christmas time, but this is not a solution for my husband.
