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Re: Is she just a friend of my husbands?
BrainHurts #2627920 05/21/12 10:09 AM
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No speakers and I am at work. I'll have a listen when I get home this afternoon.

Me 31
Him 36
S 8
S 3
Married 9 years

EA#1 6/2005
EA#2 6/2011
Re: Is she just a friend of my husbands?
jengail #2627932 05/21/12 10:39 AM
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Originally Posted by gaillajn
I did tell him about three weeks ago when I found out he was on his way to pick it up that I'd had it, and that I couldn't deal with it anymore. I told him it has made him lazy, boring, unmotivated and not to mention it's illegal and I worry about that too.

I don't know how much is kept in the house, but wonder if it may jeopardize your custody as well if something went down with this.

Maybe it wouldn't if it isn't yours, but it may be worth looking into. You don't want to go down for something that is his.

If he's high most of the time, then that explains his lack of motivation to do much. It sounds like the bottom was never really brought up to him, and most are reluctant to change unless they have a damn good reason to do so. I would Plan B this.


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Re: Is she just a friend of my husbands?
Northwood8900 #2627979 05/21/12 12:58 PM
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gal,

You should go back and re-read through the first few pages of this thread.

It was discussed that the A isn't your biggest problem... Mel and I both posted to you regarding the fact that the real issue is that your H is a freeloader and refuses to POJA. Someone like this is just going to make you miserable in M.

In fact, didn't Dr Harley tell you to Plan B years ago when you called into the radio show and there wasn't even an A going on at that time?

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Ddays 2007 and 2011
Plan B 6/21/11
Divorced July 2012
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How to Plan B Correctly
Parallel Parenting in Plan B
Re: Is she just a friend of my husbands?
SusieQ #2628517 05/22/12 05:38 PM
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Addict ... wayward ... literally the same behavior just a different drug. A wayward is an addict ... instead of craving attention from a whore he is craving it from pot.

Separate and go into Plan B ... he must get clean and sober above all else.
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