Just a quick post to say thank you. That was a really nice post you sent following mine on the D99 "OM-OW being missed, not all that bad" thread.<P>I do respect you an awful lot. And, posts like the one you just sent me say so much about your character.<P>It does take some courage to stand up for D99 here and I even believe he's been of support for you at times. I've never met a person who is all bad and yes, D99 sure has some fine qualities too (gasp, did I say that. Oh I hope he's not reading! ).<P>Then again, he sure can post some tasteless stuff (gee...so many examples... the SLUT posts used to be my fave but he really outdid himself after Glenn's death).<P>It's not anger I'm opposed to. Heck, we all feel anger. It's the pre-meditated hurtfulness that makes me react. Yeah, I confess. It's that strange combination of Gaelic honor and genetic insanity that lights me up. I can't help but defend (hey, it's on my Clan Shield "this I'll defend" LOL).<P>But, I'll defer for now. Nope, not even gonna post in reply to his latest post. Nope. Nope. Nope. Nope. <P>Thanks again!<P>DMac

DMac,<P>No need for "thanks" regarding the post. I really do admire you and your wife, not only for your thoughtful posts and responses but as I said, both of you have that wit and sense of humor I really love. Couples that click like that are meant for each other!<P>And I don't think we really disagree that much about my friends D99(H)&(W). He is a good guy,,, caring, compassionate, articulate, and outspoken. I like all those qualities. Does he sometimes ruffle feathers or hurt feelings? Yes,,and he is not the only one that has done this. But he is the only one I have seen consistently and unrelentlessly attacked for his feelings. If someone else feels this hurt and pain he feels, are they going to feel free to voice it,,seeing how he has been responded to? I doubt it. <P>But, you see, I have an outlook here that many don't have. First, I am older than most posters. Second, I have been married longer. Third, my H's affair lasted longer than most any here. Soooo, you say, what's that make me? Besides an attached, elderly, blind fool??? It makes me view life alittle differently. Life is too short to spend arguing and fighting. If I find I don't like someone's post,,,I don't respond at all. Granted, I sometimes have to sit on my hands to stop myself from lashing out but I refuse to get caught in a fruitless, hopeless battle. <P>I came to this forum for help, for suggestions and advice. I continue to return, hoping to give someone the hope and concern that was so graciously given to me. If someone disagrees with me or if I inadvertedly offend someone, I appreciate them letting me know. And that's ok,,that's good,,keeps us all on our toes and thinking .<P>DMac and Suse,,wishing you both the best and all the happiness in this world. You both deserve it

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Off in the misty glen between my ears. Hah!<P>Hey there, Cowboy Dan! How ya be?<P>------------------<BR>That's right, you're not from Texas, that's right you're not from Texas. Texas wants you anyway. Lyle Lovett<P>"When we remember we are all mad, the mysteries of life disappear and life stands explained." Mark Twain, 1898.<P>