I have already spoken to all our relatives except for the OM's Dad. I have asked all of them to talk to her. Not sure how things will turn up now. keeping my fingers crossed!!

Does any one know where to get voice activated recorder in Sydney? I tried Ebay but they are taking very long time to get it delivered.

If there are Target stores in Sydney, they might have them in the electronics department.

hitman--have you checked Amazon?

If you're ordering online today/were checking yesterday, from a US site, shipping is probably delayed because of today being Vet's Day.

Hitman, try [censored] Smith Electronics. Sydney should have those stores. If not there is an online shop.

Sorry, the censor kick in. D#!k Smith electronics.

good job! Hit, was everyone supportive?

cv

I felt a bit indignant about poor old D#!k being censored, he is a national icon over here! And no sex toys are in stock for those wondering...

We have a sporting goods store here of the same name fame...

Yes, every one was supportive including her parents. Now that she has realized that I have been speaking she wants to know the reason why I went public. I told her that I am trying to help her but she is hesitant to know the reason & I have told her that I would be telling her in a couple of weeks time.

Now the issue is my parents and my family wants me to distance myself from her and not sure what to tell them as they feel really bad about the PA. Please suggest how to convince them?

A heart felt Thank you very much celticvoyager for being with me in this tough times.

Well, coming back to my scenario I havn't yet mentioned to her about the id. Although she asked me where did I get the id from for which I told her that I got the information from a private detective. Now, I asked her to open up and confront the truth again she speaks like that is all I have and all that crap without actually telling me about the email id, or I doubt even they have been sleeping with each other as the conversation between us went like this

Me: So that night did your friends(girls) accompany you in that car? I know about that as well.
Her: Now what do you want to do?

(before that I had told her that I want to be with her and save the marriage)

After a few moments.....
Her: Whatever I have told you earlier is the truth, Yes, the girls had accompanied me on that trip. we didn't go to any hotel, party or discotheque.

it leaves me to speculate that her first answer gave it all. I also read in her notepad that she likes to play with his body when I confronted about that she said I am understanding it all wrong.

her mom had called the other day, Although I had told the truth to her mom about her being physical with the guy, she completely denied being physical with the guy and I had confronted her about kissing him some time before that. She had agreed to that.

in another incident about the guy's fb profile where in one of his wall postings his friend has shamed him for crossing the limits, for which she started defending like it could be a joke and all that crap, Honestly speaking I don't believe that.

what am I suppose to do even after this she is not willing to speak the truth?

her dad had called yesterday and consoled and encouraged her to be strong and asked her to come back. not sure how things would go.

my family is adamant on leaving this girl and coming back to India. her family also called her back to India. I am scared if I do go to India that they might out muscle me. they all seems to be worried and panicked by the revelation.

I think you should tell your family and her family that neither of you will be coming back to India. The OM is there and distance is best for the marriage.
Could you arrange for someone to bring your child to you?
Tell your wife you want the marriage to survive and thrive, that it should be based on being open and honest with each other and meeting each others most important emotional needs. That you want a passionate, romantic relationship that is monogamous and for that to develop, she should never have contact of any sort with the OM again.